Is loving yourself selfish?

Self-worth comes from thinking that you are worthy.

Why do we have to remind ourselves of a few things repeatedly in life?

Because sometimes we need a reminder. We need to be reminded of the beauty of this life. 

We need to be reminded of the importance of self-love. All our life we are busy doing things which can make our near and dear ones happy and comfortable.

We forget about our own worth and happiness. While busy securing the future of our family we tend to ignore what we need in our personal life. Ignoring our own happiness becomes a new normal after a few years of responsibilities.

But is it worth it? In my opinion love yourself first only then you will be able to love everyone else in your life with full vigour and vitality. Love what you are and what you are doing at any given moment. Because the only guaranteed moment is the present moment.

If you want people to love you and take care of you …first, you must learn to love yourself. It means having regard for yourself and knowing that you are a worthy human being. Loving yourself can satisfy your desires, nourish your passions, and enrich your life.

Do you think if you will “Love yourself” it will be selfish?

Self-love is not selfish; it is essential. you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself. It’s about being truthful to yourself. I agree it’s difficult to do for some people and some might confuse it with self-obsession.

 But it is not the same.

 To love yourself you don’t have to please everyone, but it is about making people around you happy. If you are happy obviously you will spread happiness without putting in any extra effort.

However, this is life, and everyone must face failures at some point in time. This doesn’t mean that you start destructive criticism (I am not good enough, I‘m stupid, I’m slow) etc.

A few points to remember for self-love

Don’t lose self-confidence in any circumstances. Accept yourself with all your flaws.

God has made every person unique. Don’t ever try to be like anyone.

Self-love is when you put yourself before others. it’s not selfish.

Don’t criticize yourself. Be positive in your thoughts.

Learn to say No. Don’t make commitments that are not comfortable to you.

Forget and forgive. Not because they need it. But because you know after forgiving and forgetting bad things you will feel 100x better.

If you made a mistake forgive yourself.

You don’t depend on anyone because you are your own best friend.

Your partner doesn’t complete you because you are complete within. He/She just compliment you.

You are always learning new things in life and improving yourself. You are always in the process of becoming a better person.

You can be happy while alone. You don’t need someone’s company 24/7. You like to be with yourself.

Love yourself for what you are, instead of hating yourself for what you are not.

My personal experience?

 I have always put myself in high regard and I have truly been rewarded over time. Much of my personal views and stories are in my prior content. I do have other answers with more suggestions, and your comments are welcome.

Be thankful for every small thing in your life and it will add up to ongoing happiness and self-esteem.

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

Published by Anita Vij

A caring mother of 2. A loving wife. An aspiring individual who wishes to share her life-long learnings with the rest of the world.

7 thoughts on “Is loving yourself selfish?

  1. Great post! I took a boundary workshop and one of the exercises was aimed at helping us realize that it is important to take care of self and when others call us selfish for taking care of our needs, they are wrong. I’ve worked hard to learn how to ask for what I need and not say yes to someone or something unless it is truly what I want to do.

    Thanks for following my blog and writing yours!

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    1. Thank you so much for taking time out to write such a nice message. I want to convey this to all women folks that all of us deserve the best in our lives and for that we must take care of our needs and wants.😊

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      1. So true. My parents used to tell me I was being selfish, when I wasn’t, so I’m still learning, at almost 70 years old, how to ask for what I want. Not everyone is willing to hear that. There are still so many out there ready to undermine you, manipulate you, attempt to “put you in your place” or turn the tables by being defensive, as if you are doing something against them, criticizing them, etc. … rather than receive those requests and statements of boundaries and needs and wants with love, respect and compassion.

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