Do you know how to love yourself?

I am sure you would like to know…😊

This article is in continuation to my last article. I discussed about the importance of self-love and how to make up your mind to get yourself ready for that without feeling selfish. But do you really think it is easy to do that?

No one can pour anything from an empty glass. So, the first step to love yourself might be filling that glass…Right?

Now the question is How? What to do so that the glass of self-love within you is always full?

We all know that life is full of negative things and messy situations. One issue closes and another one pops up. One challenge is completed, and another is ready to disturb the peace of mind. In such a crazy situation isn’t it unworthy to expect anyone to find time to nourish their mental health? 

I know this is asking for too much sometimes. That’s the reason people keep doing what comes their way and never think of healing their mind and soul. The result is often an unhappy and negative mindset.

It’s obvious that if you yourself don’t have a mental state of tranquillity you can’t make anyone happy and cope with the ups and downs of life successfully.

Self-love starts with independence of mind in the first place. If we depend on others for our happiness, we will always be vulnerable. Any time someone or other will be able to intrude our happy state of mind and make us feel depressed and neglected.

However, as you know if there is a problem there is always a solution to it. 

Now that you have decided to take good care of yourself and agreed to the importance of self-love, you must learn about self-help.

Don’t expect others to be responsible for your happiness.

 We all are special in a way or other. Our own hero. Everyone in this world is fighting their own battle. So why not brace yourself for fixing your problems and boost your mental health at the same time.

 Taking accountability for your actions in life will give you confidence and courage to face the outcomes of your actions.

 For that make a “Happiness Nest “of your own.

What is a “Happiness Nest”?

Let’s make a “Happiness Nest.”😇

We all have good things in our life but as time passes by, we just forget about those moments and things that gave us so much satisfaction and emotional support at a time. Those moments, feelings or achievements we forget, or the dust of time blur those memories.

How about writing your feelings for those people who bring positivity in your life, nice memories, meaningful incidents, stories of your own achievements in life.

If you don’t like writing, it’s ok. Just make a few notes and keep them in a place where you can read them when you are going through low self-esteem. 

Some nice gifts which you got from your dear ones who admire you. Thinking about those moments will again make you happy and those gifts will again remind you of those good times.

Birthday cards, mother’s day cards or anniversary cards with nice messages written on those cards can rekindle the love you felt while receiving those cards.

If you have those old-time handwritten letters, save them, and read them when feeling low or depressed. Handmade cards made by your kids when they were small and learning to write can give immense pleasure when they are offshore for work. This can be a valuable part of your” Happiness Nest.”

Some old DVD’s or cassettes can give you what nothing else can. Save those moments and cherish those memories when you need them the most.

Audio or video clips of the family enjoying themselves together will be a treasure for you when they are not around.

Put all these things together in a box or in an almirah and give it a name of your choice.😄

 Whenever you need some courage from within yourself just immerse yourself in those happy moments and forget about present problems for the time being. Rejuvenate yourself and feel strong.

Creativity can boost your self-esteem like nothing else.

Doing something creative is always good for mental health and it can give you a sense of achievement. If you like writing, nothing like that. If you like painting, drawing or anything else which can make you feel happy…just go for it.

Creative expression can help overcome problems is proven now.

 Pouring all your feelings and thoughts into a creative activity can help you drain them from your body and mind and giving you an understanding of what you feel.

A University of Toronto neuroscientist recently completed a different study where he explored the diverse ways people observe and appreciate art using fMRI.  This study found that, in addition to the visual cortex being activated, other, deeper state areas of the brain were also activated.  These areas include the brain’s pleasure and reward (serotonin) system. In addition, a sort of “daydreaming” brain mode was activated during conscious processing of the images.  The brain is processing and judging the imagery even though the participants were not instructed to analyze the images. (Campbell, 2014)

Any type of art involving writing, poetry, ceramics, drawing, mosaic or painting is helpful with mental conditions like depression, chronic pain or even stroke.

So, what are you waiting for?

Now that you know how to destress and make yourself happy just invest in creativity. Get started…write, paint draw, sing, dance…do whatever you like. Live your passion and your life will be a constant balance.

My passion right now is writing. What is yours?😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

Published by Anita Vij

A caring mother of 2. A loving wife. An aspiring individual who wishes to share her life-long learnings with the rest of the world.

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