How to sustain love in marriage

Keys to a successful marriage


Marriage, the lasting relationship made by God, has been abused in the present generations. The excessive rate of divorce around the globe has been worrisome. In order to reduce the rate of divorce and ensure a better society, a few points should be considered important.


As we are now following a modern-day society and becoming more mature in our everyday lives, I think daily life challenges are increasing and relationships are getting affected very badly.

Mainly I would like to discuss husband-wife relationships which are the most heavily impacted ones. As expectations are high from both sides, complications arise very easily.

For instance, affection is mostly overlooked as wives think HE only wants sex. Whereas other small things matter more than that. A hug, touch or being tender with him outside the bed is what men need most of the time.

On the contrary, with the arrival of a baby the priorities of a woman change, causing husbands to feel sidelined and dejected.

Understanding each other’s needs and new changes in life should be accepted practice to avoid this situation…



With almost all households having two earning members, it’s bliss in some ways and misery in others.

If the husband is earning more than the wife and both are equally qualified, a state of competitiveness arises within the household and may lead to unnecessary misunderstandings.

And if the wife is earning more than the husband, it may become an ego related problem. With this, chances of divorce also increase.

Hence, professional competition should be avoided at home. The couples who prioritise love over money may be part of a new generation that is breaking from the status-conscious marriage habits of the past.


It is not always bad to depend on someone. Regardless of gender, your partner can be better than you in some matters and there is no harm in turning towards him or her for help. Everyone has a different skill set which can be beneficial for the other half. It is better to turn towards rather than a way to assert independence.


Back in the days, it was a man who was earning for the family while women were taking care of household chores. At that time, women had to assert their independence due to the fact that they were solely dependent on their husbands for financial support. Now with the changing times more and more women are getting out of their homes to earn and lead their lives independently…narrowing the distinction between the abilities of a man and a woman.

Marriage should be seen as teamwork…two parties excelling in their own areas, working together and learning to respect one another’s capabilities.


After a few years of marriage, most couples feel there is something lacking in their relationship. 

We can call it SPARK. Couples don’t feel that freshness and need for sex. Despite the fact that they feel emotionally closer after a long marriage, a stale feeling creeps in. We need a combination of intimacy and sexual desire for that feel.

To retain that SPARK couples need to work on very small things in their daily routine…like saying I LOVE YOU and showing how much you care for them with small gestures. Once in a while, leaving kids with parents and going out on a date will do the job.


To deal with the relationship between husband and wife on the basis of the spirit of mutual respect, love, and common progress, a new form of relationship must be manifested. This relationship must continuously increase the feeling between the two parties, and make their lives more and more ideal.

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

Published by Anita Vij

A caring mother of 2. A loving wife. An aspiring individual who wishes to share her life-long learnings with the rest of the world.

9 thoughts on “How to sustain love in marriage

  1. A friend I had from college and his wife pray together, and more so when they’ve gone through struggles. They trust in God and His Son, and in this, they’re happy in their marriage. Over 25 years now and they work out everything together.

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