Anger: Weakness or Strength
Anger is a weakness, but people think of it as a strength. It is like a spark that sets you on fire first and then you burn others. If you have an anger problem, it can have a negative impact on all your relationships. Your partner, friends, kids, co-workers, and even your bosses. Your sudden outbursts can lead you into trouble with your near and dear ones and strangers as well. The fire of anger can not only hurt you but others as well.
Causes of anger
There can be a lot of things that can get you angry. Hence, we can say anger is an effect of some” cause”. If the cause is there an effect will always arise. Therefore, we must find that “cause”. There could be so many causes that can result in anger. Once we can identify the different causes of anger, we can start to deal with them.
Inborn temperament – One study indicates that temperament is determined by brain-stem processes. Each person has a unique brain stem that cannot change over the course of their life.
Having angry parents and environment – Many people with this issue say that one or both of their parents got angry easily, and they picked up their style unknowingly.
Finding that it works – Even if sometimes getting angry and having success works, it cannot be a long-term strategy and ultimately it harms in more than one way. When we are young our parents can pamper us when we get angry for petty reasons. But in adult life, it is not the same.
People become angry when things don’t go their way, they are misunderstood, or their views are not matched.
In different situations, we express our anger according to the person we are getting angry with. For example, if my husband broke an imported tea set, I will control myself and my anger. On the other hand, if it was my servant it will be difficult for me to be the same. What I must learn is: behaving in the same manner with both. I have to be calm and understanding with everyone.
Anger issues are common but with it comes anxiety, depression, and sadness. Over the years many mental health professionals have developed a lot of strategies for dealing with it. If a person is temperamental by nature, he cannot be totally laid back with these techniques but still can manage to be less damaging to his life.
I think anger is a weakness rather than a strength. If I feel insulted by someone who is angry, I will prefer being silent as to bear an insult is a sign of strength. Arguments and fighting with words will not lead to a solution for any of us. If a weak person harasses us and we do nothing in response to that it shows our strength. People try to get control of others with anger, but as long as we have our inner strength, our opponents will become weak. This is a natural trend.
We all know the simple techniques to calm down: counting to ten, breath in breath out slowly, repeating calming sentences to yourself, picture calming images, etc.
But in my opinion, we can do something more than that. I think most angry people have more energies than normal people. So, if those folks can release these energies, it will calm them effectively. For example, running around the block or doing some physical exercise can help them.
If you have hurt your dear ones and you know it’s your anger that is responsible for the damage, just take the responsibility and cool things off.
Getting an idea of your trigger points is another solution. Being nagged by your partner or boss, kids not listening to you, having someone criticize you. You must try to find a way to ignore all of this. If possible, go somewhere else for a while.
Indulge in retrospection and ask yourself, “what I will do if so and so situation arises”. Planning a few things in mind can help a lot sometimes as you know what is coming your way. Taking control of your emotions and managing anger is in your own hands. Anxiety and depression caused by anger is no solution to any problem or situation.
Be a positive thinker and relax! Life will be like never before.
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