Do you want a long term relationship?
The behaviour of successful long term partners
We are living in a time where everything in our life is unpredictable. If we look 20 years back, it was much better and most of us were at peace with our lives. On the contrary, today we are living in a time where everything looms over us. Any time we can lose our job, our partner, our travel plans. We cant even plan the education of our children in this pandemic time as lockdowns are imposed because of increased susceptibility to the virus.
However when there is no guarantee for anything at least relationships are expected to stand by in these hard times. People seeking long term relations have failed despite sincere and intense efforts. They have gone through every phase of finding the right partner, and read relationship advice books. Yet they have not been successful in maintaining it long term.
The reason is most relationship advice books are focused on the popular traits and behaviours people think will ensure success in having long term relationships. They have ignored many other aspects which are the main contributor to long-lasting relations with anyone.
When you create a successful relationship with someone, filled with joyful and meaningful experience. You never like to lose those people. I support these people as they exhibit a set of beliefs, actions and ideas that keep relationships thriving through good or bad times in life.
These people are called keepers …doesn’t matter man or woman.
In simple words, a keeper is someone who isn’t afraid of what comes after the honeymoon period, someone who understands their partner and is willing to deal with the ups and downs in a relationship, someone with whom one can share anything and everything without the fear of being judged and who actively wants to work on the relationship.
From my experience, I would like to mention a few traits of keepers (people successful in long-term relationships)
They are always self-critical. Keppers know how love works and they are not afraid of improving themselves to win the heart of their partner.
Alongside their willingness to admit their faults, they are open to compromise whenever possible. They are confident of their contribution. They are a combination of strength and flexibility which is respected by their partners.
Keepers honour and respect their partners. They blend into the rhythm of their partners and help them in everything …be it spring cleaning or gardening, they thrive in their own way.
Keepers see humour as an essential part of their relationship. Everyone knows laughter is the best medicine. People who find the humour in life maintain it as a perspective of life that keeps them going.
Keepers like to store memories. Life is so hard at times and tragedies can fill a person with grief and resentment. While facing such times memories are a collection of our good times which they can fall back to. Remembering those experiences in hard times makes everyone feel better.
Keepers are honest themselves and they like to choose partners with the same trait.
They deeply appreciate when others are honest with them and show love and care.
Keepers value others as much as they value themselves. They keep their relationships alive as they know that nothing comes with a guarantee. Be it love or relationships. They make others feel special as if they were the only person who existed.
Men and women are keepers in the same way. They both commit, stick together and make their relationship last long. In my opinion, you will get what you put into a relationship. Be it someone with the same mindset friends or a life partner.
Hence if you find someone who shares your core values and outlook on life. Someone who approaches problems the same way as you do. And it’s hard to explain but someone who vibrates at the same frequency as you do. Stick to them.
Therefore if you are a keeper find someone whose energy matches you and they respond in the same manner in the same situation. You might be best friends or life partners. If you can find all this in a person you should implicitly get them and make your life happy.
But always remember the quote by Mandy Hale, ” The only keeper of your happiness is you. Stop giving people the power to control your smile, your worth and your attitude.”
None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!