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A glass of water.

How heavy is the glass of water?

For the last few weeks, I was telling all the stuff about couples. How to find love and then how to maintain relationships and everything about which I experienced, or I have learned from other’s experiences?

Today I would like to discuss the weight of our thoughts which we carry in our mind unconsciously. I agree that the world has become more vulnerable and unpredictable. The struggle to survive is at its peak now. So it’s not surprising that many people are facing anxiety and depression nowadays.

 Every one of you must have heard the age-old adage “Is it glass half full or glass half empty”? But did anyone ever ask you,” How heavy is the glass of water you are holding?

Your answer to this question can vary from six ounces to a couple of pounds.

However, from my perspective, the weight of this glass doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you hold it. If you hold it just for a few minutes it’s fairly light. If you hold it for one hour maybe your arm aches. If you hold it for a day straight maybe your arm feels completely numb and you may drop the glass to the floor. 

In any case, it doesn’t matter how heavy the glass is. What matters is how long you are holding it. The longer you hold it the heavier it feels. Right?

Now as we are going through so many worries and pressures in this pandemic time, it feels like we are holding something heavy on to us. If you just think about it for a while you will not feel that much anxiety or depression but if all the time you are thinking about the bad situation everyone is going through, you will feel completely numb and paralyzed. You will not be capable of doing anything else until you drop all of them.

This life is a gift of God for all of us. If we have a job to feed ourselves and our family, If we have a nice family and our loved ones around us, think of it as a blessing and stop cribbing about small things which are not going according to you. Think of the people who have lost their jobs and their loved ones during this pandemic. 

Whenever you feel that the “glass of thoughts” is getting heavier, just think about those people who do not have the privileges as you. Still, they are coping with their situations. 

Many times people feel depressed not being able to live life as they did before 2020. Everyone is suffering in their own ways.

My point is that you learn to let go of your worries and stress. Don’t take them to your bed, no matter what happens during the day. Early in the evening you just put them down. Feel light and get ready for new sunshine every day. If you always carry the weight of stress from past days with you, your glass of water will be getting heavier day by day.

Learn when to put that glass down. Put all your problems on a table in front of you and try to solve them one by one. Thinking and rethinking will not solve anything. On the contrary, if you try to find a solution by looking at those problems objectively you may find some solutions.

Make a few rules and follow them diligently throughout your life. A few examples can help a lot:

  • Create boundaries for yourself and make your own rules.
  • Press a pause button before making decisions. Take a few deep breaths and feel calm.
  • Do an audit for your pain points daily. It will help you find solutions for those things in life which are giving you stress. When you will do it intentionally, you will see things -problems and solutions-with new eyes.
  • Simplify your finances and make a budget. Financial problems can make you very difficult at times. Making a  budget and taking care of small or big expenditures accordingly can relieve you of unexpected stress conditions. Mindful budgeting can help to ease your life in many ways.

Don’t push yourself unnecessarily. I know you can work harder than you are doing right now but slow progress will pay more in the end. Being very hard on yourself will tire you up earlier in life. Don’t set unrealistic goals and stress yourself. Instead, allow yourself to enjoy small wins and make your life easy.

No matter whether you find a solution for them or not just doesn’t carry the weight of them.

Hope life will feel like the “glass is lighter”.😊😊

Carrying the burden of sorrows from past or present could prove to be the heaviest for anyone. If you can keep yourself positive and ready to fight the circumstances this will definitely feel lighter.

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Are you working from home?

A few points to remember to save your marriage😇 

I know the topic may make you wonder! But it is indeed taking a toll on the married life of a few people. Living so many years with your spouse was easier than it is now. The reason is he (or both of you) was out for work the whole day and the time spent together was less. As you all know, too much of anything reduces the perceived value and you used to wait for the time when you both will be together after a long day in the office.

The need to exchange details of the day and feeling closer was much desired by couples. 

Now since this new culture or I should say compulsion of Working from home has emerged, new problems and misunderstandings are also being seen in many households. It can be really challenging to suddenly be under one roof 24/7 when you are used to being apart for many hours a day or many days amonth.

Let us discuss the pros and cons of “WFH “and how to save your marriage while you are working from home.

When it started in the early 2020s, many people were happy to get more time for themselves. They were satisfied with a flexible schedule as it allowed for more control over their work life. They believed that they can achieve a much better work-life balance working from home.

I hope all of you agree with this and for the time being, it worked for everyone. Slowly when it started being a new norm, many started feeling claustrophobic. Especially people who were travelling a lot due to their work commitments. Staying home, in the same environment with spouse 24/7…  persistent proximity triggered new problems in relationships.

According to the survey, eight days is the longest the average person says they could work from home in a shared space with their partner before tensions shoot up.

 What’s more, on a lighter note that one in three, currently working from home don’t shower or bathe every day and 15% don’t even bother to change out of their bedclothes. 😜

In such a scenario there are some rules to follow to survive your marriage: It hardly matters if you are sharing the same room for work or are sitting in the next room just a few feet away from each other. (For working couples)

Now as the commute is a thing of the past you have to decide when your day starts. Wake up at a mutually decided time and have some” me time” together during which you can have coffee, have breakfast or get ready together at a relaxing pace.

You can work out a work from home fitness routine where both of you can decide when and who will work out without disturbing the other one, especially while on a video call.

Make a daily schedule with your partner as when your meetings are so that you won’t get disturbed during zoom meetings.

If there is no meeting, agree on playing some nice music to cut through the silence.

You can take breaks together but make sure you are not interrupting your partner.

To avoid that you can schedule a break beforehand.

The best thing to do is figure out where each of you will have your workspace and separate. It is ideal to have your own workspace that both of you can call yours. Even if you are doing it at your kitchen table. It will give comfortable space and a friction free environment to both of you.

Practising a few things will make your home like a co-working place instead of a battleground. 😄

If it is just  one of you who is working from home, it’s a good idea to create some physical space between WFH employee and the rest of the family. If possible try to stay on different floors if not keep the WFH person behind a closed door. 😇

Keep the kids away from the WFH person as much as possible but remember they are still kids.

Designate a daily routine when things can be really loud and everyone can feel alive. Life can be noisy. Don’t try to become a ninja and make your home like it was before your partner started WFH.

If you love playing music while cooking or cleaning you can still enjoy that, just buy a pair of earplugs. It will not make the sounds echo house-wide during his work hours.

You(wife) should be mindful of kitchen noise while the husband is on a phone meeting. Try to keep it to a minimum or wait for half an hour.

Life can get monotonous while both spouses are home 24/7. It can devoid your married life of the romance and courtship a marriage thrives in. However, if you put some effort it can be managed easily. Have lunch together whenever possible and keep your office-related problems or conversations aside while with you significant other.

Don’t unnecessarily burden your wife with always demanding something or else as she is already coping with your presence and compromising on her privacy the whole day.😄

On a lighter note don’t try to get your wife angry as you are home and are dependent on her for everything you need. Be calm and don’t let her go insane. 😂

Have date nights like you used to have pre covid, don’t mind if it’s in your backyard; so at least both of you will get ready and feel the romance.

Lastly a few advantages for wives who are making adjustments while their spouse is working from home. Now that he is around all the time you can have some flexibility in your daily routine also. If you feel sick he’s there to take care of you and noisy kids. When you are not in a good mood he can help with household chores and can be a soundboard and safe place to vent.

So, enjoy it. It may take some time to find your WFH groove, but it’s definitely possible to find it and make it work for you.😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Navratri 2021 Day 2: Worship Devi Brahmacharini for virtue and peace

Navratri 2020 Day 2: Worship Devi Brahmacharini for virtue and peace

Maa Brahmacharini is worshipped on the second day of Navratri. She is depicted as walking bare feet, carrying a Japa Mala (rosary) in her right hand and a Kamandalu in her left hand respectively. 

Her stance reflects utmost piety and devotion. Her meditative form signifies the austere penance undertaken by Sati and Parvati in their respective births to attain Lord Shiva as their beloved consort.Her sage like demeanor has also earned her the name of Tapasyacharini.

It is believed that when Parvati was engaged in her deep meditation to please Lord Shiva, she was reduced to a mere skeleton. She went on meditating for years through severe circumstances and weather and no food or water.

Due to her austere penance, she was named Bharahmacharini by all the devtas and Gods who were awestruck by her reverence. It is believed that Lord Brahma descended upon earth to praise her diligence to seek Lord Shiva and gave her the name ‘Brahmacharini’.

Worshiping this form of Durga is believed to invoke the spirit of penance, renunciation, virtue and nobility. Goddess Brahmacharini, the second form Shakti is a tapaswani or a sage who loves simple offerings.

Jai Mata Di

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IS GETTING BACK TO AN EX RIGHT OR WRONG

When a relationship ends, there usually comes a time when you question your decision. You ask yourself, “should I have given it another try?”

A tweet was circulating on meme pages recently that said, “if you’re not dating to marry, you’re dating to break up. Let that sink in.” 

If we are not intending to marry that person, this is perhaps true. However, for those of us who end up in a marriage which ends in a break-up, its a different matter.

My question is should you try to get back to your ex?. There are so many success stories about it.

For example, there are many celebrity couples who broke up and got back together over the years. Not all of them worked out (while they gave it their best shot) and many others ended up making their love last.

To quote a few examples, Justine Timberlake and Jessica Bieber, Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard, Kate Middleton and Prince William, Cardi B and Offset, Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin to name a few.

I know many of you are also struggling with the issue already. I would like to mention that the coronavirus pandemic of 2020 has been a time during which scores of people (quarantined and self-isolating) reconnected with their ‘exes’.

The scenario and thought process has changed and perhaps relatedly, exes around the world have been coming out”, sending texts or emails to their previous time partners. In normal times, the act of initiating contact with an ex-partner was unspoken of and seldom done. But in today’s extraordinary circumstances the hesitation seems to have been suspended.

Next question is, should you try to rekindle the relationship or look for a new partner?

I think everyone who is giving a second thought to get back to an EX should keep a few points in mind.

First, what was the reason for the breakup? If the reason you two broke-up is no longer a problem, then go for it.

You both are on the same page now. Sometimes, when you are dating you realise that priorities in your lives are different. For example, it could be that you didn’t want kids and your partner did. However, people change with time and so do our desires and limitations. If both of you want the same things in life now, why not give it another shot!

Second, you are more experienced now. As we grow older, we get wiser with experiences we gather along the way. Moreover, you may have had other relationships during this time which perhaps taught you a few valuable lessons. That may make your prior relationship with your EX look like the best thing that ever happened to you!

Third, you may still be in love with your EX. If you realised that life is not worth living without each other, there is no point in suffering. After a long period of time if both of you are not being able to get over each other it is better to give your relationship another chance.

Fourth, sometimes LDR (long-distance relationship) also result in a break-up. If you are in the same city now considering getting back is a good idea.

The main thing to keep in your mind is, if he was abusive in a relationship (any type of abuse) don’t give it a second thought ever.”There is this story that(says) if you toss a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will scramble to get out,” Benton explains.”But if you put the frog in while the water is still cold-and slowly raise the temperature-the frog will (stay)until it is boiled to death. The same kind of things happens in relationships.

Abuse of any kind is complicated and it can be difficult to identify. This is especially true for emotional abuse. Physical abuse has evidence of violence but emotionally abusive relations can involve toxic mind games. So getting again in trouble is not advised.

The moral of the story? There is not anything right or wrong when it comes to relationships. Break-ups happen and they are survivable over time with help. They are not the end of the world, only the end of the relationship. Winning your ex back is not hard, the hard part is keeping them.

Give your luck a chance and see what it has in store for you.

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Do you desire a life of idleness?

Embrace the idleness and see the magic

What exactly is idleness? An activity that has an absence of purpose.

Did you ever think of living an idle life? I think none of you will agree to this. Our whole life we try to improve ourselves and get better in every sphere of life. In this race of getting better from peers we just put so much effort that sometimes our motto of life is just work, work and only work. Some people take life as a challenge and forget to live …without thinking that life is short and it has an expiry. 

It makes sense to enjoy before that expiry. Right?

A few days back I went on a trip to Oregon in the USA. While sitting by “Crater Lake” I was mesmerized and felt lost in the beauty of nature.

For ten days I just did nothing except enjoying nature where everything is perfect and nothing is perfect. Looking deep into nature can make anyone understand everything better. 😊

After coming back this thought of enjoying idleness gave me a new subject to write my perspective on idleness. 

I already have been to at least 26 countries to date but this trip was special. Because I was not in a hurry to rush to another sightseeing or next destination to cover. I was there for the whole ten days doing nothing and just enjoying the surroundings and natural beauty. This period of no activity in fact recharged my mind and soul.

I was compelled to think that what is the reason we always feel so much pressure in life? The reason might be, this world drills into our heads that we have to improve and get better because we are not perfect. That is the reason we are always running a marathon, and not living life.

Now the question is …Is it really fruitful to live life like we are here for an ongoing competition or exam which we have to pass in first class?

I myself have a very active and busy life and keep myself immersed in something or another. But suddenly I liked this idleness…😇😇

The reason might be that I needed a break from my routine life and work schedules !!

Doing nothing and just venturing in nature gave me peace of mind and food for my thought.

There are many points which I would like to discuss:

Being idle or lazy are two different things.

Idle means we are inactive and unproductive. Assuming waste of time by doing nothing of value.

Lazy is when we ought to do something but are reluctant to do it because of the effort involved.

Sometimes we see people who are not ambitious at all and happy with whatever they have. They don’t want to improve their life or they don’t starve for more success.

These people are not idle but lazy to put extra effort into anything where it is not necessary. In other words, they don’t want to beat themselves after a stipulated limit.

I think it depends on people’s perspective on life. Some people think “If “they have a reasonable amount of disposable wealth, they will quite happily do nothing more than reading, paint, study the sky, learn things just for the sheer joy of it. They will do a lot of things but not anything which makes economic sense. If someone doesn’t like that they don’t care. 

On the other hand, there are lots of people who have immense wealth but still yearning to earn more as they think it will give them a greater sense of security and achievement. They don’t care about the beauty of nature or how the sky looks on a starry night. Sitting idle seems to them like wasting time and losing something in life.

Both the perspectives are personal choices of different people. It will not be wise to comment on it.

 But I would like to share my perspective here.

For me taking a break from busy life is always welcome. That was the reason I went on long vacations every year. But still, work was always on my mind and the type of relaxation I felt was different from what I felt now. This time I just switched off my mind from everything in my life and just focussed on staring at the stars, walking on the spongy grass and feeling the sky as being in heaven.😊😊

Nature has its own language. When it speaks we have to concentrate to understand it. It speaks through the trees, the animals, the cool breeze, rocks, water…everything speaks and sings if we try to listen to it.

However, being totally indoors for over a year might be the biggest reason for this soul-soothing experience.😇

This period of idleness gave a new meaning to my life. Now I use my idle moments to gather inspiration, develop and maintain perspective, sidestep nonsense and pettiness and conserve health and stamina for important tasks and problems in life.

So I am not lazy but I like periods of idleness.😂😂

“Lord Melbourne”, Queen Victoria’s favourite prime minister, extolled the virtues of ‘masterful inactivity.’ As chairman and CEO of General Electric, Jack Welch spent an hour each day in what he called ‘looking out of the window time.’

Now is the time to enjoy your idle moments as work from home is the new normal. Take some time out to relax and enjoy.😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Do you know how to love yourself?

I am sure you would like to know…😊

This article is in continuation to my last article. I discussed about the importance of self-love and how to make up your mind to get yourself ready for that without feeling selfish. But do you really think it is easy to do that?

No one can pour anything from an empty glass. So, the first step to love yourself might be filling that glass…Right?

Now the question is How? What to do so that the glass of self-love within you is always full?

We all know that life is full of negative things and messy situations. One issue closes and another one pops up. One challenge is completed, and another is ready to disturb the peace of mind. In such a crazy situation isn’t it unworthy to expect anyone to find time to nourish their mental health? 

I know this is asking for too much sometimes. That’s the reason people keep doing what comes their way and never think of healing their mind and soul. The result is often an unhappy and negative mindset.

It’s obvious that if you yourself don’t have a mental state of tranquillity you can’t make anyone happy and cope with the ups and downs of life successfully.

Self-love starts with independence of mind in the first place. If we depend on others for our happiness, we will always be vulnerable. Any time someone or other will be able to intrude our happy state of mind and make us feel depressed and neglected.

However, as you know if there is a problem there is always a solution to it. 

Now that you have decided to take good care of yourself and agreed to the importance of self-love, you must learn about self-help.

Don’t expect others to be responsible for your happiness.

 We all are special in a way or other. Our own hero. Everyone in this world is fighting their own battle. So why not brace yourself for fixing your problems and boost your mental health at the same time.

 Taking accountability for your actions in life will give you confidence and courage to face the outcomes of your actions.

 For that make a “Happiness Nest “of your own.

What is a “Happiness Nest”?

Let’s make a “Happiness Nest.”😇

We all have good things in our life but as time passes by, we just forget about those moments and things that gave us so much satisfaction and emotional support at a time. Those moments, feelings or achievements we forget, or the dust of time blur those memories.

How about writing your feelings for those people who bring positivity in your life, nice memories, meaningful incidents, stories of your own achievements in life.

If you don’t like writing, it’s ok. Just make a few notes and keep them in a place where you can read them when you are going through low self-esteem. 

Some nice gifts which you got from your dear ones who admire you. Thinking about those moments will again make you happy and those gifts will again remind you of those good times.

Birthday cards, mother’s day cards or anniversary cards with nice messages written on those cards can rekindle the love you felt while receiving those cards.

If you have those old-time handwritten letters, save them, and read them when feeling low or depressed. Handmade cards made by your kids when they were small and learning to write can give immense pleasure when they are offshore for work. This can be a valuable part of your” Happiness Nest.”

Some old DVD’s or cassettes can give you what nothing else can. Save those moments and cherish those memories when you need them the most.

Audio or video clips of the family enjoying themselves together will be a treasure for you when they are not around.

Put all these things together in a box or in an almirah and give it a name of your choice.😄

 Whenever you need some courage from within yourself just immerse yourself in those happy moments and forget about present problems for the time being. Rejuvenate yourself and feel strong.

Creativity can boost your self-esteem like nothing else.

Doing something creative is always good for mental health and it can give you a sense of achievement. If you like writing, nothing like that. If you like painting, drawing or anything else which can make you feel happy…just go for it.

Creative expression can help overcome problems is proven now.

 Pouring all your feelings and thoughts into a creative activity can help you drain them from your body and mind and giving you an understanding of what you feel.

A University of Toronto neuroscientist recently completed a different study where he explored the diverse ways people observe and appreciate art using fMRI.  This study found that, in addition to the visual cortex being activated, other, deeper state areas of the brain were also activated.  These areas include the brain’s pleasure and reward (serotonin) system. In addition, a sort of “daydreaming” brain mode was activated during conscious processing of the images.  The brain is processing and judging the imagery even though the participants were not instructed to analyze the images. (Campbell, 2014)

Any type of art involving writing, poetry, ceramics, drawing, mosaic or painting is helpful with mental conditions like depression, chronic pain or even stroke.

So, what are you waiting for?

Now that you know how to destress and make yourself happy just invest in creativity. Get started…write, paint draw, sing, dance…do whatever you like. Live your passion and your life will be a constant balance.

My passion right now is writing. What is yours?😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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10 Interesting Facts About Lord Hanuman That You Definitely Did Not Know #5

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After Lord Ram became the King, once, when the court was adjourned, Narada – known for creating disharmony between Ram and Hanuman – asked Hanuman to greet all the sages except Vishwamitra, since he was a King once. Hanuman did so, but it did not affect Vishwamitra.

Narada went on and instigated Vishwamitra, which angered him so much that he went to Ram and asked him to punish Hanuman to death. Vishmamitra being his guru, Ram could not ignore his command and punished Hanuman to death by arrows. The next day in the field, the statement was to be executed, but all arrows failed to do any harm to Hanuman as he kept chanting Ram!Since Ram had to abide by his Guru’s word, he decided to use the Brahmastra. To the surprise of all, Hanuman’s chants of Ram even failed the most powerful Brahmastra! Seeing this, Narada went to Vishwamitra and confessed his mistake, stopping the ordeal!

Jai Shree Ram🙏🏻🙏🏻

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10 Interesting Facts About Lord Hanuman That You Definitely Did Not Know #4

Although he was a brahmachari , Lord Hanuman had a son – Makardhwaja.

Hanuman is the son of Anjana and Kesari. Wikimedia Commons

The Story of Makardhwaj – Son of Hanuman appears in the story of Ahiravana, which in itself is a relatively lesser told story from Ramayana. This incident in Ramayan shows a difference in Hanuman.

 It shows how devoted Hanuman Ji is to Ram and to what lengths can he go for his beloved Lord. In popular scriptures and cultural references, Hanuman is presented as the lifelong celibate ascetic or Bal Brahmachari. However, in some scriptures, you’ll find reference to Makardhwaj Balaji, who is believed to be the son of Hanuman.

Well, the story goes like this… after setting Lanka on fire, Lord Hanuman flew off from the blazing city, his tail still inflamed. As he was feeling too hot, he decided to take a dip in the seawater. Here a drop of his perspiration fell in the mouth of a mighty Makara.

This Makara or fish was caught by the fishermen in the kingdom of Ahiravana, the king of Patal. When the Makar was cut open, a monkey face baby with a fish’s body was found. Ahirvana saw his strength and named him Makardhwaj, the guardian of Patal.

Later when Ram was fighting a war against Ravan, Ahiravana cast a spell on Ram and Lakshman and took them to Patal. Hanuman followed them. But at the gates of Patal, he was challenged by Makardhwaj who introduced himself as the son of Hanuman.

Hanuman was most amused. At his behest, the guard narrated the story of his birth and asked for blessings from his father. However, Hanuman still had to fight a duel and defeat him to get into Patal to get Ram and Lakshman. On his return and upon Ram’s Advice, Hanuman appointed Makardhwaj as the new king of Patal.

Temples dedicated to Makardhwaj can be found in India, especially in Gujrat. Some of them include

1. Odadar Village near Porbandar

2. Idols of Hanuman and Makardhwaj are worshipped together at the Hanuman Dandi Temple in Bhet Dwarka

3. Chinchwad in Beed district of Maharashtra

4. Balaji Hanuman and his son are worshipped together at the Balaji Makardhwaj temple in Beawar, Rajasthan

                 Jai Bajrang Bali Ji 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Finding love in quarantine

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Now that the new variants of coronavirus and the illness it causes are spreading again in communities all over the globe, words such as self-quarantine and social distancing are showing up again in the media.

After 14 months into this new way of living, most of us are tired and frustrated already.

The other day I was watching “Love Is Blind” on Netflix. The series follows 30 men and women hoping to find love. For 10 days in a speed dating format, the men and women date each other in different ‘pods’ where they can talk to each other but not see each other. Whenever they decide, the men were able to propose to the women they wanted to marry.

I Watched 'Love Is Blind' With My Eyes Closed

After the proposal, and meeting face to face for the first time, the engaged couples headed to a couple of resorts. During this trip, they spent time together and got to know each other more.

After they all met their partner’s families and explored their partners living conditions, they carried out wedding ceremonies and needed to make their final decisions about whether to split or get married, answering the question, ”Is Love Blind?”

However, in practical life even today before making a decision about whom to marry people consider several things such as height, looks, even race (still!), financial status etc. 

Therefore, the question that popped up in my mind was: Is it really practical to choose a life partner on a dating app?

As we all are confined at home and going out to meet new people is difficult, if not impossible, is it truly possible to make lasting friendships or lifelong relationships without actually seeing them? Is the quote “Love Is Blind” finding new roots in these quarantine times?

I don’t know if it is good or bad but if you think of singles who are quarantined and practising social distancing in their apartments it’s just like being in a pod.

The dates are the phone calls. Connecting on chats and phone calls or video calls is very common these days. 

Virtual dating is more concentrated on humour, communication skills, consistency, and empathy. You can discover how patient, kind, and romantic another person is. You can build a strong friendship before committing to a relationship and you don’t need to rush into anything.

In a way, quarantine forces one to focus on what truly matters for a long and healthy relationship by engaging in often, deep, and perhaps long conversations.

For those who haven’t tried it yet, maybe it’s worth giving it a shot during the pandemic. If you get lucky spread the word.😊😊

It’s 2021, pandemic is beyond painful in so many ways, however, as always, we must look for the silver lining on a dark cloud. Finding meaningful relationships while being in lockdowns may be one of those silver linings! 😍

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None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Spicy Friday Story #2

Chalo Singapore #2

Sentosa Island

Hope all of you enjoyed last Friday’s story.😊

 I am here again to take you on a tour of  Santosa Island. I agree it’s not as enjoyable as it would be if you are actually in Singapore. But I will try to make it entertaining for you. Singapore isn’t exactly known as a beach destination, but if you’re really craving some fun in the sun, Sentosa Island is the place to find it. Siloso Beach is a good spot for getting in beach time, and visitors can play volleyball on free courts or go kayaking and skimboarding. There are several other beach attractions as well, plus an Underwater World aquarium, where you can swim with dolphins.

A must-see on Sentosa Island is the Merlion, Singapore’s famous statue that has the head of a lion and the body of a fish. You can take an escalator to the top of the statue and enjoy panoramic views of the surrounding area. Adventurous types will want to check out The Flying Trapeze and the SeaBreeze Water-Sports @ Wave House, where you can try your hand at flying strapped to a water-propelled jet pack.

Merlion Singapore, Singapore - December 22, 2013: The Merlion fountain lit up at night in Singapore. Singapore Stock Photo

For all information about Sentosa here is a link…

Official site: www.sentosa.com.sg/en

On this site, you get all relevant information and enjoy visiting Santosa … it is virtually but hope it’s fun 😊😊

Thank you

Featured

Spicy Friday Story : Chalo Singapore # 1

From now on I will bring a new story for you every Friday. I have travelled to so many countries and I want to share that experience with all of you.

As I have lived many years of my life in Singapore I would like to start from Singapore. But before sharing all my experiences regarding tourist places, lifestyle, food choices and everything I would like to give you a short introduction to this country.

In 1819, British statesman Stamford Raffles negotiated a treaty whereby Johor allowed the British to locate a trading port on the island, leading to the establishment of the crown colony of Singapore in 1819. During World War II, Singapore was conquered and occupied by the Japanese Empire from 1942 to 1945.

When the war ended, Singapore reverted to British control, with increasing levels of self-government being granted, culminating in Singapore merger with the federation of Malaysia in 1963.

However, social unrest and disputes, between Singapore and Malaysia ruling parties resulted in  Singapore’s expulsion from Malaysia. Singapore became an independent republic on 9th August 1965

Singapore, officially the Republic of Singapore is a sovereign island city-state in maritime Southeast Asia.

Collyer Quay, 1900. National Archive Singapore

Singapore 1900s

in the mid-1990s, Singapore had a weird reputation. On the one hand, it was a dream country for Western expatriates: developed, modern, clean, peaceful, English-speaking, with great housing and plenty of international restaurants—if you were living there for work, you were likely making serious bank. On the other, it was boring and repressive.

20 years later, however, tourism became a big business in Singapore.

Singapore has never tried to be something it’s not. It’s 278 square miles of shopping, eating, and relaxing place. The rest of Asia (and the world) have evolved in ways that make Singapore—respectable, comfy, colourful, tasty Singapore—stand out like it never used to.

Over 50 per cent of this island city is comprising of greenery, Singapore has some amazing tropical wilderness and nature-oriented attractions to be enjoyed by visitors. 

So we will visit one place every Friday from now on.

Coming up next Friday … 

Let us explore and enjoy Sentosa Island

Sentosa Island

Sadgi/Simplicity

Jhoothi shan ke dam per jeene wale,

Jindagy ki sadgi ko Kaise samjhenge!

        Jhuthi taaliyon per khush hone wale,

        Dil se nikli duaon ko kya samjhenge!!

Jinki jindagy kat gai dikhawa Karne me,

Vo dil ki gehraiyon ko kya samjhenge!

         Koi samjhana chah ke bhi na smajha paega,

         Vo rishton ki názakat ko kya samjhenge!!

💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞​​💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

People living on false pride,

Can’t understand the simplicity of life!

         Those who rejoice in false bottoms,

         Can’t understand the prayers coming from the heart!!

Those who spent life in show off,

They can’t understand the depth of heart!

          No one will be able to explain them,

          They can’t understand the fragility of relations!!         

Amazing Stories Of Lord Hanuman

YOU MUST KNOW #33

 Attribute-Strength

Hanuman is extraordinarily strong, one capable of lifting and carrying any burden for a cause. He is called Vira, Mahavira, Mahabala, and other names signifying this attribute of his. During the epic war between Rama and Ravana, Rama’s brother Lakshmana was wounded. He could only be healed and his death prevented by a herb found in a particular Himalayan mountain. Hanuman leaps and finds the mountain. There, states Ramayana, Hanuman finds the mountain which is full of many herbs. He doesn’t know which one to take. So, he lifts the entire Himalayan mountain and carries it across India to Lanka for Lakshmana. His immense strength thus helps Lakshmana recover from his wound. This legend is the popular basis for the iconography where he is shown flying and carrying a mountain in his palm.

Strength of body and mind, anyone? Be it physical fitness or meditation to make the mind strong, do whatever it takes so you can be a ninja when it’s needed the most.

Hanuman was physically the strongest warrior in Ramayana.

Hanuman was able to swoon and defeat Ravan with a single blow to his chest . All the gods including Indra praised and worshipped him for his valour.

The son of the wind god was enraged and attacked Ravana. With a fist that was like the vajra, he angrily struck him on the chest. As a result of that blow with the fist, Ravana, the lord of the rakshasas, trembled and fell down. He sank down to his knees on the ground. Seeing that Ravana, terrible in his valour, was unconscious in the battle, the rishis, the apes, and the gods, with Vasava, roared.

The rakshasa’s advisers who were present were astounded. The rakshasa became angry at his hands being crushed. He emitted an extremely loud roar that filled up the three worlds. Thinking that the worlds were about to end, humans were terrified at the sound. The gods were also agitated and were distracted from their own tasks.

 With our Subtle mind and mortal body, it is not possible to know his real strength- His strength is unfathomable….

Hanuman is very well known for his physical strength. The name Bajrang is acquired by Him due to this reason. Bajra is a cultural variation of Vajra. Anga means a body. Vajrayana means one with a body like the Vajra. Here, Vajra can be interpreted as strong and also as strong as the thunderbolt of Indra.

mahāvīra vikrama bajarangī।

kumati nivāra sumati ke sangī॥ 3 ॥ Hanuman Chalisa.

You are the great hero, you are endowed with valour, and your body is as strong as Indra’s Vajra. You are the destroyer of vile intellect, and you are the companion of one whose intellect is pure.

Jai Bajrang Bali Ji 🙏🙏

Lord Shiva

Stories You Need To Know # 6

Sharabha avatar 

This form of Lord Shiva appeared to calm Lord Narasimha after the latter killed the demon Hiranyakashipu. The Sharabha avatar is one of its kind. The Lord appeared as a being that partly looked like a lion and bird. In some texts, the Sharabha avatar is said to have eight legs.

Sarabha is a part-lion and part-bird beast in Hindu and Sanskrit literature, and is eight-legged and more powerful than a lion or an elephant, possessing the ability to clear a valley in one jump. In later literature, Sharabha is described as an eight-legged deer.

The Shaiva scriptures narrate that god Shiva assumed the form of Sharabha to pacify Narasimha – the fierce man-lion avatar of Vishnu worshipped by the Vaishnava sect. This form is popularly known as Sharabeshwara (“Lord Sharabha”) or Sharabeshwaramurti.[3] The Vaishnavas refute the portrayal of Narasimha as being destroyed by Shiva-Sharabha and regard Sharabha as the name of Vishnu. 

The Vimathgira Purana, Vathistabhaana Purana, Bhalukka Purana, and other Puranas narrate that Vishnu assumed the form of the ferocious Gandabherunda bird-animal to combat Sharabha.

In Buddhism, Sharabha appears in Jataka Tales as a previous birth of the Buddha. It also appears in Tibetan Buddhist art, symbolizing the perfection of effort. As a figure of power and majesty, Sharabha has appeared in numerous emblems, such as those of the State government of the Indian state of Karnataka, the University of Mysore, and Karnataka Soaps and Detergents Limited.

The legend of Sharabha as an incarnation of Shiva is narrated in many Hindu scriptures and each presents a different version to suit one’s religious beliefs. But one common refrain in all these depictions is that Sharabha is a combination of a huge animal-bird beast with enormous strength manifested with the purpose of pacifying similar ferocious avatar of Vishnu such as Narasimha (man-lion).

The Narasimha-Sharabha legend is linked to gods assuming mythical animal forms to slay or subdue as the case may be. First, Vishnu assumed the form of Narasimha to slay Hiranyakashipu, an asura (demon) king, who was terrorizing the universe and devotee of Shiva.

The Shiva Purana mentions: After slaying Hiranyakashipu, Narasimha’s wrath threatened the world. At the behest of the gods, Shiva sent Virabhadra to tackle Narasimha. When that failed, Shiva manifested as Sharabha.

The Shiva Purana and some Puranas mention Sharabha attacking Narasimha and immobilizing him. He thus quelled Narasimha’s terrifying rage. It is also said that Sharabha then decapitated and de-skinned Narasimha so Shiva could wear the hide and lion head as a garment.

The Linga Purana and the Sharabha Upanishad also mention the mutilation and murder of Narasimha. After the mutilation, Vishnu assumed his normal form and retired to his abode, after duly praising Shiva. It was from here on that Shiva came to be known as “Sharabeshamurti” or “Simhagnamurti”.

 Om Namah Shivaya

Life- A Short Story # 8

 Senior Secondary School

It was the time to get admission to HSC(Higher Secondary Certificate) school. When I got admission to high school, I chose higher maths as the main subject(the advanced portions of mathematics, customarily considered as embracing all beyond ordinary arithmetic, geometry, algebra, and trigonometry) and there was so much to practice every day. 

Algebra, Trigonometry, Geometry, Calculus, Arithmetic, Statistics, Probability. I was always busy studying for my board exams as I wanted to get the highest marks and was aspiring to get admission to a good and reputed college. The cut-off was high in those days also and if we didn’t score good marks, we can’t get our name on the first cut-off list. ‘A 70% then is equal to a 99% now.’

Today, private tutors offer many benefits, delivering a supporting role: They supplement the education provided in schools and other academic establishments, public and private, by consolidating or deepening knowledge and skills first learned in schools. We had to depend upon just school for everything and if we had some problems related to studies there were only our teachers to solve that.

Home tuition has grown greatly since the 1980s, but if we want to understand the history of private lessons since antiquity, we need to consider a completely different context: At that time, the school system as we know it today was different. It follows that home tutoring, as we understand it today – complementary to school education – did not exist either.

 No one in our locality had a home tutor to help enrich the knowledge gained in school.

In fact, the average ‘commoner’ didn’t receive any formal instruction at school, nor any private tuition from a tutor. It was the parents who taught their children, usually in the form of the profession they themselves practiced. Therefore, if I had some maths problem I had to ask my neighbor who was studying in college at that time. Otherwise, we had to struggle with what we could not solve, which made my study time more than it should be.

Do you still remember these ink pens? It was really difficult to manage those ink bottles and refill the pen. Sometimes in between exams, the pen stopped writing because the ink was finished in the pen.

 Since my childhood, I was a morning person and got up early in the morning to study.  Everyone appreciated my dedication to my studies and I felt that I am special. Leadership skills were the product of always being respected and being on top in school. I had a group of ten girls, who were always there for me and made me feel stronger. With time we lost touch with each other and now I even don’t know where they are.

My school was affiliated with the CBSC board of education. Central Board of Secondary Education is an eminent board of school education in India. The CBSE prepares the syllabi for Classes IX-XII for the students of affiliated schools. CBSE suggests its affiliated schools follow the syllabi of NCERT for the students from Lower Kindergarten (L.K.G) to Class VIII. 

It conducts India’s two important board examinations: the All India Secondary School Examination for Class X and the All India Senior School Certificate Examination for Class XII, which is a school-leaving examination. 

In high school board exams, I got distinctions in English and Maths. My marks were the highest in our mohalla( the area we lived in). As there were so many girls and boys my age who passed high school that year. My morale was very high and I was flying high. 

We have a few colleges which were close by and commuting daily could have been easy to those colleges. Gargi College, Kamla Nehru College, South Delhi Polytechnic for women, Acharya Narendra Dev College, Lady Shree Ram College, and Miranda House were to name a few.

These were the nearest colleges from where we got the forms and started filling up the forms in the hope to get admission to the first cut-off list. My best friend Vandana and I used to start early and go to the college by bus to get the form and tried to fill them.

 There were no websites like today from where we could download the admission form and fill them up. We covered one college daily and it took a few days for us to get the forms collected from all the desired colleges.

For admission to Delhi University, we need to have a good score in English and any other three subjects. So if my subjects were English, Economics, Maths, civics, and Home Science, Delhi University will let me omit the subject I had the worst score in but most other universities will look at the score of all your subjects. 

We had to apply to various colleges. Every college had different criteria for admission hence we had to apply individually. So it kept me busy for many days.

To be continued

Dular/ Love

Agar chot lagty hai,

Bachhe ko!

      Tadap jata hai dil,

      Maan ka!!

Hum khushiyon me,

Bhale hi bhula den!

         Musibat me hon to,

         Yaad ata hai pyar maan ka!!

Kahan se dhoond laun main,

Kahan kho gâya dular maan ka!!!

🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸

If some injury happens,

To a child!

        Mother’s heart,

         Yearns!!

We can forget her,

 while happy!

          If in trouble,

          We remember mother’s love!!

From where I can get back,

Where I lost my mother’s love!!!

Waqt/Time

Suna tha,

 Bahut badi cheez hai waqt!

      Har lailaj,

      Dard ki dawa hai waqt!!

Humne to, 

Kuch aur hi seekha waqt se!

     Jakhmon ko chhoona nahi,

     Varna khatm nahi honge ye jakhm!!

Waqt ko waqt do,

Waqt hi bharega ye jakhm!!!

🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸

Heard,

Time is a big deal!

      Every incurable,

      Pain can be cured with time!!

I learned,

Something else from time!

      Don’t touch the wounds,

      Let them heal themselves!!

Give some time to the time,

Only time will heal those wounds!!!

Amazing Stories Of Lord Hanuman

YOU MUST KNOW # 32

Attributes: Kama-rupin

He can shapeshift, become smaller than the smallest, larger than the largest adversary at will. He uses this attribute to shrink and enter Lanka, as he searches for the kidnapped Sita imprisoned in Lanka. Later on, he takes on the size of a mountain, blazing with radiance, to show his true power to Sita.

As we all have read in Hanuman Chalisa that:

“asht siddhi nav nidhi ke data

as var deen janki mata”

Lord Anjaneya or Hanumanji is the master of 8 siddhis and 9 nidhis.

Anima and Mahima are the 2 siddhis where he is able to reduce his size and increase it respectively.

The other 6 are:

  1. Garima: Ability to increase one’s weight infinitely
  2. Laghima: Ability to become lighter than the lightest
  3. Prapti: Ability to Obtain anything
  4. Prakamya: Ability to acquire anything desired
  5. Isitva: Lordship over creation
  6. Vasitva: Having control over things.

The Hanuman Chalisa says that Mother Sita (Janaki Mata) bestowed this grace upon him.

Jai Shree Ram!

🙏🙏

Lord Shiva

Stories You Need To Know #5

Ashwatthama Avatar 

Guru Dronacharya had performed intense penance to please Lord Shiva. He wanted the Lord to be born as his son. Therefore, pleased by Guru Dronacharya’s devotion, Lord Shiva took birth as Ashwatthama, an able warrior who played a pivotal role in the Mahabharata.

Before the Mahabharata war, Guru Dronacharya reached the Himalayas (Rishikesh) while traveling to many places. There, in a divine cave on the banks of the Tamasa river, there is a self-styled Shivalinga named Tapeshwar. Here Guru Dronacharya and his wife Mata Kripi did penance to Shiva. Pleased with his penance, Lord Shiva granted him the boon of having a son. After some time, Mother Kripi gave birth to a beautiful Tejashwi child. As soon as he was born, there was a sound of snoring from his throat, due to which his name was Ashwatthama. 

A priceless gem was present in Ashwatthama’s head since birth, which kept him fearless from demons, demons, weapons, diseases, gods, snakes, etc.

During the Mahabharata war, Guru Dronacharya thought it appropriate to support the Kauravas due to allegiance to the kingdom of Hastinapur (Meerut). Like his father, Ashwatthama was also proficient in Shastra and weaponry. He took an active part in the war of Mahabharata. In the Mahabharata war, he was a commander of the Kaurava side. He killed Ghatotkacha’s son Anjanaparva. Apart from him, Drupadakumar, Shatrunjaya, Balanik, Jayanik, Jayashva, and King Shrutahu were also killed. He killed ten sons of Kuntibhoja.

The father-son duo dispersed the Pandava army during the Mahabharata war. Seeing the defeat of the Pandavas’ army, Shri Krishna asked Yudhishthira to resort to diplomacy. Under this plan, it was spread that “Ashwatthama was killed”. But he said “but the elephant” in a very soft voice, and refrained from lying. Before this incident, the Pandavas and the people of their side had a detailed discussion with Shri Krishna about whether it would be true that “But the elephant” should be spoken in such a voice. Shri Krishna blew a conch shell simultaneously, Due to whose noise Guru Dronacharya could not hear the last word.

 Hearing the news of the death of his beloved son, Dronacharya gave up his arms and closed his eyes on the battlefield, and sat in a state of mourning. Knowing that Guru Dronacharya was dead, Draupadi’s brother Dyushtadyumna beheaded him with a sword. After the ruthless killing of Guru Dronacharya, the Pandavas started winning.

 In the Mahabharata war, the Kauravas were destroyed by Arjuna’s arrows and Bhimsen’s mace. The wicked and arrogant Duryodhana’s thigh was also broken by Bhimsen in a wrestling match. Seeing such  condition of his king Duryodhana and remembering the death of his father Dronacharya, Ashwatthama became impatient. Duryodhana knew the art of binding water. So he entered the same pond near which Gadyuddha was going and hid the water tied up.

 With the defeat of Duryodhana, the victory of the Pandavas in the war was confirmed, all the people of the Pandava camp were getting drunk in the joy of victory. 

Ashwatthama used Narayana Astra on the Pandavas to avenge the brutal murder of his father Dronacharya. In front of which the entire Pandava army had laid down its weapons. After the battle, Ashwatthama killed Draupadi’s five sons and Dyushtadyumna. Ashwatthama used Brahmastra on Abhimanyu’s son Parikshit.

 Ashwatthama is immortal and is still alive today. Due to the curse of Shri Krishna, Ashwatthama got the cod disease. He is still alive today. 

                   Om Namah Shivae 🙏🙏

Life- A Short Story # 7

Princess of my father

As I have mentioned earlier, I had very small dreams. What is a Dream? A dream can be described as a series of images, thoughts, desires, or emotions that pass through our minds. It’s a wonderful thing we can create in our imagination, most often related to our future. It’s something we wish and hope to achieve someday.

I had a habit to be always happy and whatever the circumstances in life were, I never demanded the things my parents couldn’t afford comfortably. Despite my interest in movies, music, and  TV, I never pressurized my father for buying anything he couldn’t afford comfortably at that time.

Back then only a few houses had TV and I with my cousin brothers used to go to watch TV programs at our relative’s house. Many other people from the neighborhood were also there. We used to go for watching “Chitrahaar” on Wednesday and Friday. On Saturdays and Sundays, some old movies were also relayed on Doordarshan.

Then my Mamaji(maternal uncle)also bought a Tv. We all used to gather at Mamaji’s house to watch Chitrahaar and Movies on TV. The whole room was filled with people. Most of them from our locality. But my father used to stop me from going and watching TV at anyone’s home. He didn’t like it at all that I was sitting with all those people for so long.

When I was 14, one evening my father came back from his office early and asked me to get ready. I was the princess of my father and he took me for shopping whenever he was happy with me. He used to buy some dresses for me and we ate some nice food in South Extension Bengali Market. So I thought it would be the same this time too. I didn’t expect at all that a big surprise is awaiting me.

That evening we went to South Extension market and he stopped at a TV shop. I was surprised and asked him if he was going to buy one? He smiled at me and nodded. I can’t tell you how happy I was at that moment. 

I was growing young and my father didn’t like me to go to anyone’s house to watch TV. So he managed to buy one. Now my father is no more but I will always remember how much he cared for me and protected me. At that time an ad was very popular on TV …” Neighbours envy owner’s pride.”

it was an ad for a brand of TV (Onida TV). I used to laugh and say this when our neighbors were jealous when we bought a TV.

Can you imagine Television programs for about 4 hours a day, with only one channel to choose from? Well, that was a reality not that long back. I am talking about the late 1970s and early 1980s. Throughout the 70s, the programming was limited to a few evening hours. 

Romance or love was forbidden and even speaking these words was offensive. I studied in a girl’s school and had no exposure to boys outside my family. Just my seven brothers brigade, who was always there to give me company.

Boys from my neighborhood never dared to comment or get offensive with me because of my BB(brothers brigade).

But there was a boy from some other area, who took the chance to stand on the corner of our street with his friends in the evenings and when I went out with my friends he started commenting something or else. It went on for a few days and when he started to be more irritating, then somehow my BB(brothers brigade) came to know about this.

One of my cousins was more close to me than the other ones. When he heard about all this, he came to me and took me to the roof of my house. He asked me candidly If I had any feelings for that boy. I just laughed and asked him why he was getting so emotional? I had nothing to do with that guy and he can treat him as he wished.

After that, the matter was discussed within the brother brigade and they took care of that matter. From that day forward the boy never stood at the corner of my street. I concentrated on my studies as I was preparing to enter high school.

 Being a teenager at that time was totally different from today. It is always difficult being a teenager. One of the reasons many of us find it so hard is because it is a time of rapid physical development and deep emotional changes.

 These are exciting, but can also be confusing and uncomfortable for children and parents alike. Adolescence is a period of transition and teens have to work through new emotions, thoughts, and feelings.

The problems of adolescence are- mental tension, imitation, sexual abuse, early marriage, and peer pressure. Adolescence is the age of storm and stress. It is associated with many physiological and mental changes and is a time of great emotional upheaval. While going through all this and the pressure of studies, I was trying to do my best in all possible manners. As always trying to be a good girl.

Maan/Mother

Jab janam leta hai ek bachha,

Tabhi banty hai ek ladki maan!

         Ek chhoti si jaan me hai kitny takat,

         De sakty hai ek ladki ko ek naya naam!!

Ek jindagy ko janam dena koi asan kaam nahi,

Ek ladki ko maan ka darja dena koi asan kaam nahi!

         Us darje ko bnae rakhna koi asan kaam nahi,

         Us darje ko ijjat dena bhi koi asan kaam nahi!!

🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

When a child is born,

Only then a girl becomes a mother!

          How much power is there in such a small life,

          Can give a new name to a girl!!

Giving birth to a life is not an easy task,

Giving mother status to a girl is not an easy task!

          Maintaining that status is not an easy task,

          To give respect to that status is not an easy task!!

Rishte/ Relationships

Rishte badal jate hain,

Ehsaas badal jate hain!

    Umar badhne ke sath, 

    Halat badal jate hain!!

Jo kal tak the,

Mery jimmedary!

    Aaj  vo mere laddle,

    Jimmedar ban jate hain!!

Kal tak rakha tha, 

Jinka khayal maine!

      Aj vo jimmedary se,

      Mera khayal rakhne wale ban jate hain!!

🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

Relationships change,

Feelings change!

       With age,

       Conditions also change!!

Till yesterday,

Who were my responsibility!

        Today my dear boys,

        Have become responsible!!

Till yesterday,

I took care of them!

         Today they have become the ones,

         Who can take my responsibility!!

Amazing Stories Of Lord Hanuman

YOU MUST KNOW # 31

Attributes; Kurūp and Sundar 

He is described in Hindu texts as kurūp (ugly) on the outside, but divinely Sundar (beautiful inside). The Hanuman Chalisa describes him as handsome with a complexion of molten gold (kanchana barana birāja subesā).

Gods, it is said, can assume any shape or many shapes

at one time. Our mythological Hanuman, the monkey god of the epic Ramayan, conforms to this omniscience. A combination of the rhesus monkey, the langur, and man, it cannot be said to belong to any single species.

I find this kind of synergy is common for portrayals of mythological characters which are usually portrayed as composite formalized mosaics of two or more beings. Their actual features are embellished or overlaid by ascribed attributes drawn from characters that are either similar or familiar. The traditional depiction of Hanuman is in keeping with this.

The question that strikes me concerning Hanuman is: why is this mix-up between two simian species? Obviously, the most striking or appealing features from different species have been taken — the highly arching tail of the langur, the pinkish face with the more pronounced and powerful muzzle of the Bandar, and the stance of a human being; the features of only one species were inadequate to portray such a valiant character as Hanuman.

He seems to have the head and face of the rhesus macaque (Macaca mulatta) because of the lack of a mane and crown tuft and a pink face. The similarity does not end here. Hanuman also has a prominent, prognathous (protruding or long-jawed) muzzle and hair along the side of the jaws like sideburns. These are in sharp contrast to langurs which are maned and darker, with flatter features.

Artists have evidently found it difficult to draw Hanuman. The upright stance of the monkey god is quite contrary to the natural horizontal stance of both the species from which it has drawn its characteristics. This also explains why the northern form of the langur’s tail carriage has never been depicted.

It looks to me that the artists would have had an easier time, and could have done a better job, had they not been required to combine these three different strains. For example, in the typical monkey stance, the tail could have been easily drawn with an artistic flourish, looping either gracefully forward or backward.

Imagine translating the forward loop in the context of the upright human stance — the appendage would have to be drawn arched over the head or shoulders and would dip awkwardly in front of the monkey god’s face. This kind of illustration would look very odd and could be made aesthetically appealing only with great difficulty. The ancient artists, therefore, consciously or not, ignored the direction of the loop that, even if natural, might offend artistic sensibilities.

Hanuman was fondly called ‘Sundara’ meaning a charming one by his mother Anjani and Sage Valmiki chose this name over others as the Sundara Kanda is about Hanuman’s journey to Lanka.

Jai Bajrang Bali Ji 🙏🙏

Lord Shiva

Stories You Need To Know # 4

Bhairava Avatar

The Bhairava Avatar also is one of the fiercest avatars of Lord Shiva. Referred to as Dandapani, the Bhairava Avatar punishes those who are greedy, lustful, and arrogant. These negative traits often lead to one’s downfall, hence the purpose of the Bhairava avatar.

Kala Bhairava (Sanskrit: भैरव, lit. frightful) is a Shaivite deity worshiped by Hindus. In Shaivism, he is a fierce manifestation of Shiva associated with annihilation. In the Trika system Bhairava represents Supreme Reality, synonymous with Para Brahman.

The origin of Bhairava or Bhairon can be drawn from the conversation between Lord Brahma and Lord Vishnu described in “Shiv Maha-Puran” where Lord Vishnu asks Lord Brahma who is the supreme creator of the Universe.  Lord Brahma proclaimed himself to be that superior person.  On hearing this, Lord Vishnu chided Lord Brahma for his hasty and overconfident words.  After the debate they decided to seek the answer from the four Vedas.  Rig Veda designated Lord Rudra (Shiva) as supreme as He is the omnipotent deity who controls all living beings.

 Yajur Veda replied that He, whom we worship through various Yagnas (Yagam) and other such rigorous rituals, is none other than Shiva, who is supreme.  Sam Veda stated that the respected figure who is worshipped by various Yogis and that Person who controls the entire world is none other than Triambakam (Shiva).  Finally, Atharva Veda said, all human beings can see the Lord through Bhakti Marg and such a deity who can remove all the worries of human beings is indeed Shankar (Shiva).  But both Lord Brahma and Lord Vishnu started laughing in disbelief.

Then Lord Shiva appeared as a powerful divine light.  Lord Brahma stared at Him furiously with his fifth head.  Lord Shiva immediately created one living being and stated that he will be King of Kaal and will be known as Kaal (Death) Bhairav.   Meanwhile, Lord Brahma’s fifth head was still burning with fury and Kaal Bhairav pulled that head from Brahma.

 Lord Shiva directed Bhairav to go around various holy places (teerths) to get rid of Brahma Hatya.  Kaal Bhairav, with Brahma’s head in his hand, started taking baths in various holy places (Teerths), worshipped various Lords, nevertheless saw that Brahma Hatya Dosh was following him all along.  He could not get rid of that affliction. Finally, Kaal Bhairav reached the Moksha Puri, Kashi. The moment Kaal Bhairav entered Kashi, Brahma Hatya Dosha disappeared into the netherworld.  The head of Brahma, (Kapal) fell at a place which was called Kapal Mochan and there was a Teerth which was later called  Kapal Mochan Teerth. Then onwards Kaal Bhairav stationed himself permanently in Kashi, giving shelter to all his devotees.  Those living in or visiting Kashi must worship Kaal Bhairav and he grants protection to all his devotees.

Ashtami day (the eighth day after Poornima) in the month of Margashirsha is an important day for worshipping Kaal Bhairav.  Besides, Sundays, Tuesdays, Ashtami, and Chaturdasi days are very important for worshipping Kaal Bhairav. Lord Kaal Bhairav eight times will be absolved of all the sins committed by him.  A devotee who worships Kaal Bhairav for six months will attain all types of Siddhi. (Kashi Khand, Chapter 31.)

Another story of the origin of Bhairava is the tale of Shiva and Shakti. Shakti, the daughter of the king of gods, Daksha chose Shiva for marriage. Her father disapproved of the marriage because he alleged that Shiva resides in jungles with animals and ghosts and hence has no equality with him. But Shakti decides otherwise and marries Shiva. After some time King Daksha held a Yagana and invited all the gods, but not Shiva. Shakti came to the yagna alone, where Daksha publicly spoke in a belittling manner about Shiva. Shakti could not bear to hear her husband insult her and jumped into the holy fire of Yagna and sacrificed her. On hearing this Lord destroyed the yagna and killed Daksha by beheading him. Then Shiva carried Shakti’s corpse on his shoulders and ran uncontrollably all around the world for days.

Since this would eventually destroy all creation, Vishnu used his Sudarshan Chakra to cut Shakti’s body into pieces, which then fell all around. These spots where Shakti’s body parts fell are now known as Shakti Peethas. In the form of the frightful Bhairava, Shiva is said to be guarding each of these Shaktipeeths. Each Shaktipeeth temple is accompanied by a temple dedicated to Bhairava (Bhairon).

Om Namah Shivae 🙏🙏

Fostering the Vedic lineage

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Sri Seetharama Ganapadigal

The hazy sounds of the chorus Vedic chants heard from a good twenty meter distance turns electrifying as one steps into the sacred precinct of the Sri Bharathi Theertha Veda Patasala, situated in Mattancherry, Kochi. The rhythmic intonations of complex Vedic mantras by a group of dhoti clad boys sitting cross-legged in two inner-facing rows transports the listener to a rarefied field of divine exuberance. The benign glance of Seetharama Ganapadigal, sitting imposingly at the centre with hands gesturing the ebb and flow of the verses, ensures a strict discipline to the oral academic tradition and brings to life the extolled Guru-Shishya Parampara. And as the students effortlessly chant pristine sanskrit verses in precious meter and with clear diction, one is overwhelmed at the expanse of the Vedic knowledge and the grandeur of its expression!

Sri Sri Sri Bharathi Tirtha Swamigal: Epitome of Vedic wisdom

The Patasala…

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Life- A Short Story #6

Working At AIR

A new journey began and I started working as a child artist on All India Radio.

While working at AIR, I used to travel alone on the bus when going for my rehearsals and recordings. This made me more confident about myself. I got paid a little salary in cheques also from those radio shows, which I used to spend on buying my favorite things. 

I really enjoyed this newfound freedom which gave me so much happiness. Earning some money always gives freedom to spend and a confidence boost. All children my age were not earning and they envied me because I was scoring well in school plus earning some money also. My status was increased in everyone’s eyes. I was enjoying all this and started working harder.

I liked the atmosphere in AIR(All India Radio), where I was treated very nicely as a child artist. The day my skit was to be broadcast, was very special for everyone. Everyone in my family was sitting close to the radio to listen to how I  have performed on the radio. I can never forget those days. Even today I smile when I recall those memories.

 In the meantime, I got offers from “Doordarshan” but my father was reluctant to accept that and he said, that ‘working in Radio is very different from working in TV programs.’ He didn’t want that exposure for me so he declined those offers and I continued working on the Radio station as a child artist.

Maybe you will think that why I am discussing details about my childhood? But I think that it’s necessary to share with all of you, from where I am coming? What was my background? How was I in my childhood? We all have our stories which can be different but all of us come from somewhere and what we will be in our future depends upon the upbringing we are given. 

Our mindset and many more things depend on our background.

Some Early Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Life, But Which Ones? Having warm, supportive parents early on correlates with success in adulthood. Most of us don’t remember our first two or three years of life — but our earliest experiences may stick with us for years and continue to influence us well into adulthood.

It is important to know that in my humble childhood I was very happy and we all managed to live healthy and happy within our means and on a tight budget. This made me care about money and to date, I never waste money where it is not needed. My childhood taught me that we don’t need loads of money to keep us happy. It is just a state of mind. The foundation of our personality is kept in our early childhood and it can reflect what we will be in the future.

Childhood experiences affect family health in adulthood in the expected direction. Even in the presence of early adversity, positive experiences in childhood can provide a foundation for creating better family health in adulthood. I think all our lives are shaped by the die that is cast during our childhood growing up times.

 Although we have our own inherent natures and traits that are determined by the chemistry of creation, we all carry pieces of baggage or life traps from the early days. All our experiences during childhood form the beliefs that ultimately make us, and dictate our responses. positive experiences during childhood can increase our sense of belongingness and connections.

I was always surrounded by so many connections and family members which helped me have this positive thinking attitude and an emotional heart with a strong sense of empathy.

My dreams were very small. I never went out of Delhi till I was married. I had never seen mountains or waterfalls except for on TV and that too very rarely as there were very limited shows on black and white TV at that time. Mainly “Krishi Darshan,” News” and “Chitrahaar” were daily broadcast in the evening hours.

I didn’t know back then, that I will be a globe trotter and a successful businesswoman one day. Will roam around the world non-stop and have every luxury of life which I have today. No-one knew.

To be continued

Taale/Locks

kabhi kabhi jee me ata hai,

khol dun ye juban pe pade taale!

         Jo bhi chhupa ke rakkha hai dil me,

         Luta dun vo khajane saare!!

Dar lagta hai jamane se,

Kahin koi khafa na ho jae!

         Jo thodi bahut bachi hai dawa,

         Kahin vo phi jehar na ho jae!!

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Sometimes I think,

I should open these locks lying on my tongue!

Whatever is hidden in the heart,

          plunder all those treasures!!

Just Afraid of society,

let no one be upset!

The little medicine that is left,

          Don’t want it to get poisoned!!

Anjaan/Unaware

Socha tha is duniya se,

Anjaan ban jaenge!

       Jaane kya hua,

       Khud se hi anjaan ho gae!!

Khabar tab hui jab,

dusron se pata chala!

       Ki hum pareshan hain,

       Jaan ke hum bhi haïran ho gae!!

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It was a thought, I will be,

Unknown to this world!

Don’t Know what happened

  Became Unknown to me!!

The news spread when,

I found out from others!

Knowing that we are worried,

We were surprised to know from others!!

Amazing Stories Of Lord Hanuman

YOU MUST KNOW #30

Attributes of Hanumanji

Brahmacharya

Brahmachari (self-controlled): one who controls their lust from all materialistic things of the material world.

Brahmacharya is a concept within Indian religions that literally means to stay in conduct within one’s own Self. In Yoga, Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism it generally refers to a lifestyle characterized by sexual continence or complete abstinence.

Brahmacharya is somewhat different from the English term “celibacy,” which merely means non-indulgence in sexual activity. Brahmacharya is when a person completely controls his body and mind (chitta) through ascetic means.

In the Hindu, Jain, and Buddhist monastic traditions, brahmacharya implies, among other things, the mandatory renunciation of sex and marriage. It is considered necessary for a monk’s spiritual practice. Western notions of the religious life as practiced in monastic settings mirror these characteristics.

In ancient and medieval era Indian texts, the term brahmacharya is a concept with a more complex meaning indicating an overall lifestyle conducive to the pursuit of sacred knowledge and spiritual liberation.

 Brahmacharya is a means, not an end. It usually includes cleanliness, ahimsa, simple living, studies, meditation, and voluntary restraints on certain foods (eating only Sattvic food), on intoxicants, and on sexual behavior (both sex and masturbation, in some schools of thought).

Gonda (A book) states that there were no age restrictions at the start of brahmacharya in ancient India. Not only young men, but older people resorted to the student stage of life, and sought teachers who were authoritative in certain subjects. The Chandogya Upanishad, in Section 5.11, describes “wealthy and learned householders” becoming brahmacārīs (students) with Rishi Kaikeya, to gain knowledge about Atman (inner Self) and Brahman (Ultimate Reality).

Various Ashrams (आश्रम, hermitage) and Matha (मठ, college of ascetics) of various schools of Hinduism call their male and female initiates as brahmacārī and brahmacārinī.

Graduation from the brahmacharya stage of life was marked by the Samavartanam ceremony. The graduate was then ready to either start the Grihastha (householder) stage of life, or wait, or pursue a life of Sannyasa and solitude like Rishis in the forest.

 Vyasa in Chapter 234 of Shanti Parva in the Mahabharata praises brahmacharya as an important stage of life necessary for learning, then adds Grihastha stage as the root of society and important to an individual’s success.


Jai Bajrang Bali Ji

Lord Shiva

Stories You Need To Know # 3

Veerabhadra Avatar

The Veerabhadra avatar of Lord Shiva is one of his fiercest forms. Lord Shiva incarnated as Veerabhadra after his wife Sati’s death. The Veerabhadra form of Lord Shiva destroyed King Daksha’s Yagya and beheaded him for being responsible for Sati’s death.

Virabhadra is also known as Veerabadhra, Veerabathira, Veerabathiran is an extremely fierce and fearsome form of the Hindu god Shiva. He was created by the wrath of Shiva and destroyed the Yagna (fire sacrifice) of Daksha after Daksha’s daughter and Shiva’s consort Sati self-immolated in the sacrificial fire.

He is described as a warrior who eventually blinded Bhaga, subdued Indra, and broke, among many other countless gods, Pushan‘s teeth. Other gods fled the battlefield unable to sustain their power

Within Shaivism, Virabhadra’s origins run as follows. Sati was the youngest daughter of Daksha. While growing up, she set her heart on Shiva and worshipped him. In the Swayamvara of Sati, Daksha invited all the devas and princes except Shiva. Sati cast her garland into the air, calling upon Shiva to receive it, and behold he stood in the midst of the court with the garland about his neck. Daksha had no choice but to get his daughter married to Shiva.

One day, Daksha invited all the devas in order to perform a great offering called the Ashwamedha yagna, omitting only Shiva. Sati’s urge to attend the event, due to her affection towards her parents, overpowered the social etiquette of not going to an uninvited ceremony; thus, Daksha insulted her in front of his guests. 

Angered after hearing insults against her husband, she set herself ablaze by her inner yogāgni. The site where Sati had died later on became known as “Satikund”, situated in Kankhal, Haridwar.

When Shiva came to know about what had happened, with deep sorrow and anger, he plucked a lock from his hair and thrashed it on the ground. Both Veerabhadra and Bhadrakali were born from it. The former is believed to be the destroyer of Agnana: born with a tall, muscular body reaching the higher heavens, he was as dark as the stormy clouds, with three burning eyes and fiery hair. He also wore a garland of skulls and carried weapons. Bhadrakali, a wrathful incarnation of Devi, provided him the power.

The Padma Purana, on the other hand, identifies Virabhadra as the fierce form of Mangala (the planet Mars). Virabhadra is born when Shiva, due to his anguish regarding the death of Sati, perspires, his perspiration falls on earth. The gives birth to the fierce Virabhadra, who destroys the yajña.

 Then Shiva calms him down and makes him the planet Angaraka, viz planet Mars. There is the temple of Shri Virabhadra near Ahmednagar in the state of Maharashtra, India. The place is known as Shahadongar located at the footsteps of the hill on which the Tomb of Salabat Khan II is present.

To be continued

Life- A Short Story # 5

 A new beginning

Those were the days, which are still alive in my memories. Very small things can make an impact on us when we are younger. We can remember those incidents all our lives.

At that time we didn’t have gadgets to keep us busy but we had our family and friends with whom we laughed, played, and time was spent without giving it a thought. There was always something on our minds and we knew what to do next. Social interaction was much more than today’s kids have. We had real friends, and we could depend upon them for our needs.

No matter what it was but we always knew that our friends and family are always there to support us.

While my mother didn’t differentiate between me and my younger brother but still she was a product of patriarchy, which we can still see in our society. In our families, girls were always considered to be “Parai Amanat.”

This means we have to go to our own house after marriage and that home doesn’t belong to us. That home was meant to be just my brother’s home.

This didn’t bother me at that time as in our routine life my parents didn’t make us feel different. We were treated equally and scolded equally for our mistakes. My father was very strict and we didn’t dare to do anything which was considered wrong in his eyes. My life was very disciplined from a very young age and that helped me become what I am today. The credit goes to my father.

He was an open-minded man and never stopped me from wearing modern clothes like bell bottoms or sleeveless tops. I was considered to be a fashionable girl. In those years when I was growing up slacks, sharara suits, and lungi kurta, bell bottoms were in fashion and I had all those dresses, which made me look prettier and more attractive.

My father was a govt employee and worked in AIR(All India Radio). All India Radio is the largest radio network in the world and one of the largest broadcasting organizations in the world in terms of the number of languages broadcast and the spectrum of socio-economic and cultural diversity it serves.

In the 1970s TV was not common in middle-class households. We used to listen to the Radio for our entertainment. There were news, music, drama, and skits on the radio which we regularly listened to as per our interests. Radio drama, with its different voices and sounds, projecting a similar atmosphere to that of a movie, kept me focused and entertained at the same time.

While listening to radio dramas may seem like something outdated now, radio was the machine that turned oral stories – often told inside one family – into a magical form of entertainment for a whole population. Before the video, before TV, radio dramas were the place where stories, more than just being read, took form.

In the 1950s, all the way to the 1970s, radio was the major popular entertainment. It was more than just a source of news: music and novels were also a major part of people’s everyday lives. In many ways, when people lived closed inside their own community, radio must have felt like the only direct thing connecting a whole family to those who lived far apart, to the country they lived in, and to the unknown (rest of the) world.  

Radio was the first to start a widespread broadcast of theatre plays, most of them adapted to radio. Eventually, because it was difficult to make this adaptation since theatre plays relied heavily on what the audience was seeing, many plays started being written specifically for radio broadcasting. This meant that with the help of sound effects – usually created with the most common objects and a lot of imagination – the listeners had the full experience of a play, made for their ears only. 

My father didn’t let the opportunity go waste, and when  I was thirteen years old, he arranged an audition on the radio station for participating in “skits” and “radio dramas.” At that time radio was the main source of entertainment and people listened to skits(short dramas) and dramas on radio. I passed the audition and started working in radio station by taking part in those skits and dramas.

Despite what many may have predicted when television started to take over the entertainment industry, radio drama seems to be making a steady comeback in the last decade or so, especially through the voices of independent creators. 

While our parents are still mostly used to listening to the radio, younger generations are now listening to podcasts, and that brings the advantage that we can actively choose what we listen to, and which matters should be worthy of our attention. Audio isn’t just a way of entertainment anymore, but a new way to learn, keep up with the news, and, many times, to advertise and expand a business.

To Be Continued…