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Role reversal

As I hung the curtains in my new home,

I remembered days from years ago,

When my son was small and by my side,

Handing me things with joy and pride.

Now he’s grown into a capable man,

Taking care of things as best he can,

And I find myself in a different role,

Receiving help, feeling loved and whole.

The tears come unbidden to my eyes,

As I see the reversal of our lives,

The circle of love and care complete,

A bond between us that’s hard to beat.

I’m grateful for the memories we share,

And for the love that’s always there,

As we move forward with each passing day,

In a different but equally special way.

So he hangs the curtains with a smile,

I am thinking of my son all the while,

And knowing that we’ll always be,

Connected by love eternally.

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Do you desire a life of idleness?

Embrace the idleness and see the magic

What exactly is idleness? An activity that has an absence of purpose.

Did you ever think of living an idle life? I think none of you will agree to this. Our whole life we try to improve ourselves and get better in every sphere of life. In this race of getting better from peers we just put so much effort that sometimes our motto of life is just work, work and only work. Some people take life as a challenge and forget to live …without thinking that life is short and it has an expiry. 

It makes sense to enjoy before that expiry. Right?

A few days back I went on a trip to Oregon in the USA. While sitting by “Crater Lake” I was mesmerized and felt lost in the beauty of nature.

For ten days I just did nothing except enjoying nature where everything is perfect and nothing is perfect. Looking deep into nature can make anyone understand everything better. 😊

After coming back this thought of enjoying idleness gave me a new subject to write my perspective on idleness. 

I already have been to at least 26 countries to date but this trip was special. Because I was not in a hurry to rush to another sightseeing or next destination to cover. I was there for the whole ten days doing nothing and just enjoying the surroundings and natural beauty. This period of no activity in fact recharged my mind and soul.

I was compelled to think that what is the reason we always feel so much pressure in life? The reason might be, this world drills into our heads that we have to improve and get better because we are not perfect. That is the reason we are always running a marathon, and not living life.

Now the question is …Is it really fruitful to live life like we are here for an ongoing competition or exam which we have to pass in first class?

I myself have a very active and busy life and keep myself immersed in something or another. But suddenly I liked this idleness…😇😇

The reason might be that I needed a break from my routine life and work schedules !!

Doing nothing and just venturing in nature gave me peace of mind and food for my thought.

There are many points which I would like to discuss:

Being idle or lazy are two different things.

Idle means we are inactive and unproductive. Assuming waste of time by doing nothing of value.

Lazy is when we ought to do something but are reluctant to do it because of the effort involved.

Sometimes we see people who are not ambitious at all and happy with whatever they have. They don’t want to improve their life or they don’t starve for more success.

These people are not idle but lazy to put extra effort into anything where it is not necessary. In other words, they don’t want to beat themselves after a stipulated limit.

I think it depends on people’s perspective on life. Some people think “If “they have a reasonable amount of disposable wealth, they will quite happily do nothing more than reading, paint, study the sky, learn things just for the sheer joy of it. They will do a lot of things but not anything which makes economic sense. If someone doesn’t like that they don’t care. 

On the other hand, there are lots of people who have immense wealth but still yearning to earn more as they think it will give them a greater sense of security and achievement. They don’t care about the beauty of nature or how the sky looks on a starry night. Sitting idle seems to them like wasting time and losing something in life.

Both the perspectives are personal choices of different people. It will not be wise to comment on it.

 But I would like to share my perspective here.

For me taking a break from busy life is always welcome. That was the reason I went on long vacations every year. But still, work was always on my mind and the type of relaxation I felt was different from what I felt now. This time I just switched off my mind from everything in my life and just focussed on staring at the stars, walking on the spongy grass and feeling the sky as being in heaven.😊😊

Nature has its own language. When it speaks we have to concentrate to understand it. It speaks through the trees, the animals, the cool breeze, rocks, water…everything speaks and sings if we try to listen to it.

However, being totally indoors for over a year might be the biggest reason for this soul-soothing experience.😇

This period of idleness gave a new meaning to my life. Now I use my idle moments to gather inspiration, develop and maintain perspective, sidestep nonsense and pettiness and conserve health and stamina for important tasks and problems in life.

So I am not lazy but I like periods of idleness.😂😂

“Lord Melbourne”, Queen Victoria’s favourite prime minister, extolled the virtues of ‘masterful inactivity.’ As chairman and CEO of General Electric, Jack Welch spent an hour each day in what he called ‘looking out of the window time.’

Now is the time to enjoy your idle moments as work from home is the new normal. Take some time out to relax and enjoy.😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Spicy Friday Story : Chalo Singapore # 1

From now on I will bring a new story for you every Friday. I have travelled to so many countries and I want to share that experience with all of you.

As I have lived many years of my life in Singapore I would like to start from Singapore. But before sharing all my experiences regarding tourist places, lifestyle, food choices and everything I would like to give you a short introduction to this country.

In 1819, British statesman Stamford Raffles negotiated a treaty whereby Johor allowed the British to locate a trading port on the island, leading to the establishment of the crown colony of Singapore in 1819. During World War II, Singapore was conquered and occupied by the Japanese Empire from 1942 to 1945.

When the war ended, Singapore reverted to British control, with increasing levels of self-government being granted, culminating in Singapore merger with the federation of Malaysia in 1963.

However, social unrest and disputes, between Singapore and Malaysia ruling parties resulted in  Singapore’s expulsion from Malaysia. Singapore became an independent republic on 9th August 1965

Singapore, officially the Republic of Singapore is a sovereign island city-state in maritime Southeast Asia.

Collyer Quay, 1900. National Archive Singapore

Singapore 1900s

in the mid-1990s, Singapore had a weird reputation. On the one hand, it was a dream country for Western expatriates: developed, modern, clean, peaceful, English-speaking, with great housing and plenty of international restaurants—if you were living there for work, you were likely making serious bank. On the other, it was boring and repressive.

20 years later, however, tourism became a big business in Singapore.

Singapore has never tried to be something it’s not. It’s 278 square miles of shopping, eating, and relaxing place. The rest of Asia (and the world) have evolved in ways that make Singapore—respectable, comfy, colourful, tasty Singapore—stand out like it never used to.

Over 50 per cent of this island city is comprising of greenery, Singapore has some amazing tropical wilderness and nature-oriented attractions to be enjoyed by visitors. 

So we will visit one place every Friday from now on.

Coming up next Friday … 

Let us explore and enjoy Sentosa Island

Sentosa Island

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A glass of water.

How heavy is the glass of water?

For the last few weeks, I was telling all the stuff about couples. How to find love and then how to maintain relationships and everything about which I experienced, or I have learned from other’s experiences?

Today I would like to discuss the weight of our thoughts which we carry in our mind unconsciously. I agree that the world has become more vulnerable and unpredictable. The struggle to survive is at its peak now. So it’s not surprising that many people are facing anxiety and depression nowadays.

 Every one of you must have heard the age-old adage “Is it glass half full or glass half empty”? But did anyone ever ask you,” How heavy is the glass of water you are holding?

Your answer to this question can vary from six ounces to a couple of pounds.

However, from my perspective, the weight of this glass doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you hold it. If you hold it just for a few minutes it’s fairly light. If you hold it for one hour maybe your arm aches. If you hold it for a day straight maybe your arm feels completely numb and you may drop the glass to the floor. 

In any case, it doesn’t matter how heavy the glass is. What matters is how long you are holding it. The longer you hold it the heavier it feels. Right?

Now as we are going through so many worries and pressures in this pandemic time, it feels like we are holding something heavy on to us. If you just think about it for a while you will not feel that much anxiety or depression but if all the time you are thinking about the bad situation everyone is going through, you will feel completely numb and paralyzed. You will not be capable of doing anything else until you drop all of them.

This life is a gift of God for all of us. If we have a job to feed ourselves and our family, If we have a nice family and our loved ones around us, think of it as a blessing and stop cribbing about small things which are not going according to you. Think of the people who have lost their jobs and their loved ones during this pandemic. 

Whenever you feel that the “glass of thoughts” is getting heavier, just think about those people who do not have the privileges as you. Still, they are coping with their situations. 

Many times people feel depressed not being able to live life as they did before 2020. Everyone is suffering in their own ways.

My point is that you learn to let go of your worries and stress. Don’t take them to your bed, no matter what happens during the day. Early in the evening you just put them down. Feel light and get ready for new sunshine every day. If you always carry the weight of stress from past days with you, your glass of water will be getting heavier day by day.

Learn when to put that glass down. Put all your problems on a table in front of you and try to solve them one by one. Thinking and rethinking will not solve anything. On the contrary, if you try to find a solution by looking at those problems objectively you may find some solutions.

Make a few rules and follow them diligently throughout your life. A few examples can help a lot:

  • Create boundaries for yourself and make your own rules.
  • Press a pause button before making decisions. Take a few deep breaths and feel calm.
  • Do an audit for your pain points daily. It will help you find solutions for those things in life which are giving you stress. When you will do it intentionally, you will see things -problems and solutions-with new eyes.
  • Simplify your finances and make a budget. Financial problems can make you very difficult at times. Making a  budget and taking care of small or big expenditures accordingly can relieve you of unexpected stress conditions. Mindful budgeting can help to ease your life in many ways.

Don’t push yourself unnecessarily. I know you can work harder than you are doing right now but slow progress will pay more in the end. Being very hard on yourself will tire you up earlier in life. Don’t set unrealistic goals and stress yourself. Instead, allow yourself to enjoy small wins and make your life easy.

No matter whether you find a solution for them or not just doesn’t carry the weight of them.

Hope life will feel like the “glass is lighter”.😊😊

Carrying the burden of sorrows from past or present could prove to be the heaviest for anyone. If you can keep yourself positive and ready to fight the circumstances this will definitely feel lighter.

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Are you working from home?

A few points to remember to save your marriage😇 

I know the topic may make you wonder! But it is indeed taking a toll on the married life of a few people. Living so many years with your spouse was easier than it is now. The reason is he (or both of you) was out for work the whole day and the time spent together was less. As you all know, too much of anything reduces the perceived value and you used to wait for the time when you both will be together after a long day in the office.

The need to exchange details of the day and feeling closer was much desired by couples. 

Now since this new culture or I should say compulsion of Working from home has emerged, new problems and misunderstandings are also being seen in many households. It can be really challenging to suddenly be under one roof 24/7 when you are used to being apart for many hours a day or many days amonth.

Let us discuss the pros and cons of “WFH “and how to save your marriage while you are working from home.

When it started in the early 2020s, many people were happy to get more time for themselves. They were satisfied with a flexible schedule as it allowed for more control over their work life. They believed that they can achieve a much better work-life balance working from home.

I hope all of you agree with this and for the time being, it worked for everyone. Slowly when it started being a new norm, many started feeling claustrophobic. Especially people who were travelling a lot due to their work commitments. Staying home, in the same environment with spouse 24/7…  persistent proximity triggered new problems in relationships.

According to the survey, eight days is the longest the average person says they could work from home in a shared space with their partner before tensions shoot up.

 What’s more, on a lighter note that one in three, currently working from home don’t shower or bathe every day and 15% don’t even bother to change out of their bedclothes. 😜

In such a scenario there are some rules to follow to survive your marriage: It hardly matters if you are sharing the same room for work or are sitting in the next room just a few feet away from each other. (For working couples)

Now as the commute is a thing of the past you have to decide when your day starts. Wake up at a mutually decided time and have some” me time” together during which you can have coffee, have breakfast or get ready together at a relaxing pace.

You can work out a work from home fitness routine where both of you can decide when and who will work out without disturbing the other one, especially while on a video call.

Make a daily schedule with your partner as when your meetings are so that you won’t get disturbed during zoom meetings.

If there is no meeting, agree on playing some nice music to cut through the silence.

You can take breaks together but make sure you are not interrupting your partner.

To avoid that you can schedule a break beforehand.

The best thing to do is figure out where each of you will have your workspace and separate. It is ideal to have your own workspace that both of you can call yours. Even if you are doing it at your kitchen table. It will give comfortable space and a friction free environment to both of you.

Practising a few things will make your home like a co-working place instead of a battleground. 😄

If it is just  one of you who is working from home, it’s a good idea to create some physical space between WFH employee and the rest of the family. If possible try to stay on different floors if not keep the WFH person behind a closed door. 😇

Keep the kids away from the WFH person as much as possible but remember they are still kids.

Designate a daily routine when things can be really loud and everyone can feel alive. Life can be noisy. Don’t try to become a ninja and make your home like it was before your partner started WFH.

If you love playing music while cooking or cleaning you can still enjoy that, just buy a pair of earplugs. It will not make the sounds echo house-wide during his work hours.

You(wife) should be mindful of kitchen noise while the husband is on a phone meeting. Try to keep it to a minimum or wait for half an hour.

Life can get monotonous while both spouses are home 24/7. It can devoid your married life of the romance and courtship a marriage thrives in. However, if you put some effort it can be managed easily. Have lunch together whenever possible and keep your office-related problems or conversations aside while with you significant other.

Don’t unnecessarily burden your wife with always demanding something or else as she is already coping with your presence and compromising on her privacy the whole day.😄

On a lighter note don’t try to get your wife angry as you are home and are dependent on her for everything you need. Be calm and don’t let her go insane. 😂

Have date nights like you used to have pre covid, don’t mind if it’s in your backyard; so at least both of you will get ready and feel the romance.

Lastly a few advantages for wives who are making adjustments while their spouse is working from home. Now that he is around all the time you can have some flexibility in your daily routine also. If you feel sick he’s there to take care of you and noisy kids. When you are not in a good mood he can help with household chores and can be a soundboard and safe place to vent.

So, enjoy it. It may take some time to find your WFH groove, but it’s definitely possible to find it and make it work for you.😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Navratri 2021 Day 2: Worship Devi Brahmacharini for virtue and peace

Maa Brahmacharini is worshipped on the second day of Navratri. She is depicted as walking bare feet, carrying a Japa Mala (rosary) in her right hand and a Kamandalu in her left hand respectively. 

Her stance reflects utmost piety and devotion. Her meditative form signifies the austere penance undertaken by Sati and Parvati in their respective births to attain Lord Shiva as their beloved consort.Her sage like demeanor has also earned her the name of Tapasyacharini.

It is believed that when Parvati was engaged in her deep meditation to please Lord Shiva, she was reduced to a mere skeleton. She went on meditating for years through severe circumstances and weather and no food or water.

Due to her austere penance, she was named Bharahmacharini by all the devtas and Gods who were awestruck by her reverence. It is believed that Lord Brahma descended upon earth to praise her diligence to seek Lord Shiva and gave her the name ‘Brahmacharini’.

Worshiping this form of Durga is believed to invoke the spirit of penance, renunciation, virtue and nobility. Goddess Brahmacharini, the second form Shakti is a tapaswani or a sage who loves simple offerings.

Jai Mata Di

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IS GETTING BACK TO AN EX RIGHT OR WRONG

When a relationship ends, there usually comes a time when you question your decision. You ask yourself, “should I have given it another try?”

A tweet was circulating on meme pages recently that said, “if you’re not dating to marry, you’re dating to break up. Let that sink in.” 

If we are not intending to marry that person, this is perhaps true. However, for those of us who end up in a marriage which ends in a break-up, its a different matter.

My question is should you try to get back to your ex?. There are so many success stories about it.

For example, there are many celebrity couples who broke up and got back together over the years. Not all of them worked out (while they gave it their best shot) and many others ended up making their love last.

To quote a few examples, Justine Timberlake and Jessica Bieber, Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard, Kate Middleton and Prince William, Cardi B and Offset, Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin to name a few.

I know many of you are also struggling with the issue already. I would like to mention that the coronavirus pandemic of 2020 has been a time during which scores of people (quarantined and self-isolating) reconnected with their ‘exes’.

The scenario and thought process has changed and perhaps relatedly, exes around the world have been coming out”, sending texts or emails to their previous time partners. In normal times, the act of initiating contact with an ex-partner was unspoken of and seldom done. But in today’s extraordinary circumstances the hesitation seems to have been suspended.

Next question is, should you try to rekindle the relationship or look for a new partner?

I think everyone who is giving a second thought to get back to an EX should keep a few points in mind.

First, what was the reason for the breakup? If the reason you two broke-up is no longer a problem, then go for it.

You both are on the same page now. Sometimes, when you are dating you realise that priorities in your lives are different. For example, it could be that you didn’t want kids and your partner did. However, people change with time and so do our desires and limitations. If both of you want the same things in life now, why not give it another shot!

Second, you are more experienced now. As we grow older, we get wiser with experiences we gather along the way. Moreover, you may have had other relationships during this time which perhaps taught you a few valuable lessons. That may make your prior relationship with your EX look like the best thing that ever happened to you!

Third, you may still be in love with your EX. If you realised that life is not worth living without each other, there is no point in suffering. After a long period of time if both of you are not being able to get over each other it is better to give your relationship another chance.

Fourth, sometimes LDR (long-distance relationship) also result in a break-up. If you are in the same city now considering getting back is a good idea.

The main thing to keep in your mind is, if he was abusive in a relationship (any type of abuse) don’t give it a second thought ever.”There is this story that(says) if you toss a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will scramble to get out,” Benton explains.”But if you put the frog in while the water is still cold-and slowly raise the temperature-the frog will (stay)until it is boiled to death. The same kind of things happens in relationships.

Abuse of any kind is complicated and it can be difficult to identify. This is especially true for emotional abuse. Physical abuse has evidence of violence but emotionally abusive relations can involve toxic mind games. So getting again in trouble is not advised.

The moral of the story? There is not anything right or wrong when it comes to relationships. Break-ups happen and they are survivable over time with help. They are not the end of the world, only the end of the relationship. Winning your ex back is not hard, the hard part is keeping them.

Give your luck a chance and see what it has in store for you.

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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Do you know how to love yourself?

I am sure you would like to know…😊

This article is in continuation to my last article. I discussed about the importance of self-love and how to make up your mind to get yourself ready for that without feeling selfish. But do you really think it is easy to do that?

No one can pour anything from an empty glass. So, the first step to love yourself might be filling that glass…Right?

Now the question is How? What to do so that the glass of self-love within you is always full?

We all know that life is full of negative things and messy situations. One issue closes and another one pops up. One challenge is completed, and another is ready to disturb the peace of mind. In such a crazy situation isn’t it unworthy to expect anyone to find time to nourish their mental health? 

I know this is asking for too much sometimes. That’s the reason people keep doing what comes their way and never think of healing their mind and soul. The result is often an unhappy and negative mindset.

It’s obvious that if you yourself don’t have a mental state of tranquillity you can’t make anyone happy and cope with the ups and downs of life successfully.

Self-love starts with independence of mind in the first place. If we depend on others for our happiness, we will always be vulnerable. Any time someone or other will be able to intrude our happy state of mind and make us feel depressed and neglected.

However, as you know if there is a problem there is always a solution to it. 

Now that you have decided to take good care of yourself and agreed to the importance of self-love, you must learn about self-help.

Don’t expect others to be responsible for your happiness.

 We all are special in a way or other. Our own hero. Everyone in this world is fighting their own battle. So why not brace yourself for fixing your problems and boost your mental health at the same time.

 Taking accountability for your actions in life will give you confidence and courage to face the outcomes of your actions.

 For that make a “Happiness Nest “of your own.

What is a “Happiness Nest”?

Let’s make a “Happiness Nest.”😇

We all have good things in our life but as time passes by, we just forget about those moments and things that gave us so much satisfaction and emotional support at a time. Those moments, feelings or achievements we forget, or the dust of time blur those memories.

How about writing your feelings for those people who bring positivity in your life, nice memories, meaningful incidents, stories of your own achievements in life.

If you don’t like writing, it’s ok. Just make a few notes and keep them in a place where you can read them when you are going through low self-esteem. 

Some nice gifts which you got from your dear ones who admire you. Thinking about those moments will again make you happy and those gifts will again remind you of those good times.

Birthday cards, mother’s day cards or anniversary cards with nice messages written on those cards can rekindle the love you felt while receiving those cards.

If you have those old-time handwritten letters, save them, and read them when feeling low or depressed. Handmade cards made by your kids when they were small and learning to write can give immense pleasure when they are offshore for work. This can be a valuable part of your” Happiness Nest.”

Some old DVD’s or cassettes can give you what nothing else can. Save those moments and cherish those memories when you need them the most.

Audio or video clips of the family enjoying themselves together will be a treasure for you when they are not around.

Put all these things together in a box or in an almirah and give it a name of your choice.😄

 Whenever you need some courage from within yourself just immerse yourself in those happy moments and forget about present problems for the time being. Rejuvenate yourself and feel strong.

Creativity can boost your self-esteem like nothing else.

Doing something creative is always good for mental health and it can give you a sense of achievement. If you like writing, nothing like that. If you like painting, drawing or anything else which can make you feel happy…just go for it.

Creative expression can help overcome problems is proven now.

 Pouring all your feelings and thoughts into a creative activity can help you drain them from your body and mind and giving you an understanding of what you feel.

A University of Toronto neuroscientist recently completed a different study where he explored the diverse ways people observe and appreciate art using fMRI.  This study found that, in addition to the visual cortex being activated, other, deeper state areas of the brain were also activated.  These areas include the brain’s pleasure and reward (serotonin) system. In addition, a sort of “daydreaming” brain mode was activated during conscious processing of the images.  The brain is processing and judging the imagery even though the participants were not instructed to analyze the images. (Campbell, 2014)

Any type of art involving writing, poetry, ceramics, drawing, mosaic or painting is helpful with mental conditions like depression, chronic pain or even stroke.

So, what are you waiting for?

Now that you know how to destress and make yourself happy just invest in creativity. Get started…write, paint draw, sing, dance…do whatever you like. Live your passion and your life will be a constant balance.

My passion right now is writing. What is yours?😊😊

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within is meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

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10 Interesting Facts About Lord Hanuman That You Definitely Did Not Know #5

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After Lord Ram became the King, once, when the court was adjourned, Narada – known for creating disharmony between Ram and Hanuman – asked Hanuman to greet all the sages except Vishwamitra, since he was a King once. Hanuman did so, but it did not affect Vishwamitra.

Narada went on and instigated Vishwamitra, which angered him so much that he went to Ram and asked him to punish Hanuman to death. Vishmamitra being his guru, Ram could not ignore his command and punished Hanuman to death by arrows. The next day in the field, the statement was to be executed, but all arrows failed to do any harm to Hanuman as he kept chanting Ram!Since Ram had to abide by his Guru’s word, he decided to use the Brahmastra. To the surprise of all, Hanuman’s chants of Ram even failed the most powerful Brahmastra! Seeing this, Narada went to Vishwamitra and confessed his mistake, stopping the ordeal!

Jai Shree Ram🙏🏻🙏🏻

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10 Interesting Facts About Lord Hanuman That You Definitely Did Not Know #4

Although he was a brahmachari , Lord Hanuman had a son – Makardhwaja.

Hanuman is the son of Anjana and Kesari. Wikimedia Commons

The Story of Makardhwaj – Son of Hanuman appears in the story of Ahiravana, which in itself is a relatively lesser told story from Ramayana. This incident in Ramayan shows a difference in Hanuman.

 It shows how devoted Hanuman Ji is to Ram and to what lengths can he go for his beloved Lord. In popular scriptures and cultural references, Hanuman is presented as the lifelong celibate ascetic or Bal Brahmachari. However, in some scriptures, you’ll find reference to Makardhwaj Balaji, who is believed to be the son of Hanuman.

Well, the story goes like this… after setting Lanka on fire, Lord Hanuman flew off from the blazing city, his tail still inflamed. As he was feeling too hot, he decided to take a dip in the seawater. Here a drop of his perspiration fell in the mouth of a mighty Makara.

This Makara or fish was caught by the fishermen in the kingdom of Ahiravana, the king of Patal. When the Makar was cut open, a monkey face baby with a fish’s body was found. Ahirvana saw his strength and named him Makardhwaj, the guardian of Patal.

Later when Ram was fighting a war against Ravan, Ahiravana cast a spell on Ram and Lakshman and took them to Patal. Hanuman followed them. But at the gates of Patal, he was challenged by Makardhwaj who introduced himself as the son of Hanuman.

Hanuman was most amused. At his behest, the guard narrated the story of his birth and asked for blessings from his father. However, Hanuman still had to fight a duel and defeat him to get into Patal to get Ram and Lakshman. On his return and upon Ram’s Advice, Hanuman appointed Makardhwaj as the new king of Patal.

Temples dedicated to Makardhwaj can be found in India, especially in Gujrat. Some of them include

1. Odadar Village near Porbandar

2. Idols of Hanuman and Makardhwaj are worshipped together at the Hanuman Dandi Temple in Bhet Dwarka

3. Chinchwad in Beed district of Maharashtra

4. Balaji Hanuman and his son are worshipped together at the Balaji Makardhwaj temple in Beawar, Rajasthan

                 Jai Bajrang Bali Ji 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Finding love in quarantine

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Now that the new variants of coronavirus and the illness it causes are spreading again in communities all over the globe, words such as self-quarantine and social distancing are showing up again in the media.

After 14 months into this new way of living, most of us are tired and frustrated already.

The other day I was watching “Love Is Blind” on Netflix. The series follows 30 men and women hoping to find love. For 10 days in a speed dating format, the men and women date each other in different ‘pods’ where they can talk to each other but not see each other. Whenever they decide, the men were able to propose to the women they wanted to marry.

I Watched 'Love Is Blind' With My Eyes Closed

After the proposal, and meeting face to face for the first time, the engaged couples headed to a couple of resorts. During this trip, they spent time together and got to know each other more.

After they all met their partner’s families and explored their partners living conditions, they carried out wedding ceremonies and needed to make their final decisions about whether to split or get married, answering the question, ”Is Love Blind?”

However, in practical life even today before making a decision about whom to marry people consider several things such as height, looks, even race (still!), financial status etc. 

Therefore, the question that popped up in my mind was: Is it really practical to choose a life partner on a dating app?

As we all are confined at home and going out to meet new people is difficult, if not impossible, is it truly possible to make lasting friendships or lifelong relationships without actually seeing them? Is the quote “Love Is Blind” finding new roots in these quarantine times?

I don’t know if it is good or bad but if you think of singles who are quarantined and practising social distancing in their apartments it’s just like being in a pod.

The dates are the phone calls. Connecting on chats and phone calls or video calls is very common these days. 

Virtual dating is more concentrated on humour, communication skills, consistency, and empathy. You can discover how patient, kind, and romantic another person is. You can build a strong friendship before committing to a relationship and you don’t need to rush into anything.

In a way, quarantine forces one to focus on what truly matters for a long and healthy relationship by engaging in often, deep, and perhaps long conversations.

For those who haven’t tried it yet, maybe it’s worth giving it a shot during the pandemic. If you get lucky spread the word.😊😊

It’s 2021, pandemic is beyond painful in so many ways, however, as always, we must look for the silver lining on a dark cloud. Finding meaningful relationships while being in lockdowns may be one of those silver linings! 😍

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None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

None of the blogs or opinions expressed within are meant as advice to you or anybody else on any matter, including but not limited to, personal finance, health, or other matters of life. If you need advice, speak to a professional!

God In Our Heart

I can see everyone around me,

And everyone can see me too.

                But I long to see the one,

                Who watches over us anew.

The one who sees us all,

But remains invisible to the eye.

              The one who guides us through life,

               As we stumble and we try.

I look up at the sky,

And wonder where you are.

              The one who sees us all,

              And shines like a bright star.

Are you in the winds that blow,

Or in the leaves that rustle low?

                Are you in the waves that crash,

                Or in the silence that flows?

I seek you in the mountains,

And in the valleys deep and wide.

               I desire you in the oceans,

               And in the rivers that glide.

But still, I cannot find you,

And you remain a mystery.

                  The one who sees us all,

                  Yet stays out of history.

Do you know who it is?

This is God in our hearts.

                 The one who watches over us,

                  And never lets us fall apart.

For though I cannot see you,

I know that you are there.

                 The one who sees us all,

                 And shows us that he cares.

Don’t complain, Don’t explain

In our family’s realm, where hearts unite,

Generations mingle, like stars in the night.

           With varied views and thoughts held dear,

           We cherish the bond that draws us near.

Let us weave a rule, a gentle decree,

That honors our differences, sets us free.

           We will never complain, never explain,

                    And enter the serene autumn of our life.

Respecting the wisdom of those who came before,

And embracing the dreams of those who explore.

        Let’s forge a path where opinions may clash,

       But love remains constant, an unyielding flash.

For strength lies not in sameness alone,

But in the harmonious chorus, we’ve known.

         Let tolerance be our guiding light,

        With empathy, understanding, always in sight.

Kindness begets bonds that never fade,

And bridges the gaps where opinions are laid.

        With open hearts, let’s listen and learn,

     The young and the old, the meek and the stern.

May our diverse personalities intertwine,

Creating a masterpiece, a legacy so fine.

         So let this rule be etched within our core,

         To celebrate differences, always.

In this process of thoughts, we share,

Our family’s unity shall forever be rare.

Let Our Hearts Talk

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When we love someone,

We speak so softly.

         The more we love,

         The softer our words oft.

But as love wanes,

Our voices raise.

       Till we’re shouting,

       Lost in a loveless daze.

We don’t need words,

To speak in love.

       Our hearts and minds,

       Connect like a glove.

Just whispers,

In each other’s ears.

        And the love between us,

        Is crystal clear.

But when we’re drifting apart,

 We raise our voices.

         Make ourselves, 

          Heard, indeed.

So let our hearts,

 Do the talking.

        Just gentle whispers,

        Soft and low.

That’s how true love begins to grow.

That’s how true love begins to grow!!

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Heart on my sleeve

Some people hide their feelings in tears,

Others in a smile so sincere.

            But I wear my heart on my sleeve,

            And express my feelings, without reprieve.

I don’t believe in hiding away,

My emotions, come what may.

             I’ll laugh, I’ll cry, I’ll shout,

             And let my feelings out, no doubt.

I’m not afraid to show my heart,

To let the world see every part.

          I’ll share my joy, I’ll share my pain,

          And let my feelings fall like rain.

I find freedom in expressing,

My feelings, without repressing.

            Hiding my feelings seems so fake,

            And my soul tends to shake.

It’s better to be open and true

And let my emotions shine through.

             So, while some may hide away,

             Their feelings, every night and day.

 I’ll express my feelings far and wide,

And let my heart take a joyous ride.

Cracks In The Heart

Cracks are never good, they say,

For people try to peep and pry.

           They want to know what’s going on,

           And they won’t let it go until they try.

The cracks that form on the surface,

Are like windows to the soul.

          And though we try to cover them up,

          They always seem to take their toll.

But the truth is, the cracks are just,

A tiny glimpse of what lies beneath.

            They don’t show the whole picture,

            And the assumptions they bring are a thief.

They steal away our privacy,

And they take away our space.

             They make us feel vulnerable,

             And leave us without a trace.

So, we try to cover up the cracks,

And hide them from the world.

            We try to keep our hearts intact,

            And our emotions safely curled.

But maybe it’s time to embrace,

The cracks that we try to hide.

           Maybe it’s time to let them show,

           And let the world take a ride.

For the cracks that form on the surface,

Are a testament to our strength.

          To be true to ourselves and show,

          That we’re not just what we seem.

That we’re complex, beautiful beings,

And not just a simple theme.

Beauty of letters

Don’t know how it was,

When we waited for letters.

           Excitedly checking the mailbox,

           Hoping for something better.

The anticipation and thrill,

As we tore open the envelope.

            Reading words from a distant friend,

            And feeling a sense of hope.

But now things have changed,

And waiting seems like a crime.

             We send messages every second,

             And expect a response in no time.

We’ve grown impatient,

And the value of words has diminished.

            We don’t understand the worth,

            Of sentiments that were once finished.

We forget the beauty of waiting,

And the memories that will last.

                 Don’t know how it was,

                 When we waited for letters.

 But maybe we should slow down,

 And appreciate life’s little pleasures.

The dawn will come

When love dies, it leaves an ache,

A painful void, that’s hard to shake.

The memories fade, the flame goes out,

And what was once love, is now in doubt.

            The promises made now left undone,

            The passion and fire no longer won.

            The sweet caresses, now just a memory,

            The love that once was, is now history.

The laughter and joy once shared in bliss,

Now replaced by a cold and empty abyss.

The dreams and plans, now torn apart,

The pain and hurt, a heavy heart.

             When love dies, it takes a toll,

             A heavy burden, on the soul.

             The tears that flow, the heart that aches,

             The brokenness, that never shakes.

But even in the midst of pain,

There’s hope for love to rise again.

For love may die, but it can be reborn,

And in its renewal, new love is formed.

                 So let us grieve what has been lost,

                 And trust that love will pay the cost.

                 For even in the darkest night,

                The dawn will come, and bring new light.

Find a treasure in old

Come, let’s remember old things,

Let’s relive the moments of our past.

The memories that our heartstrings,

Once held, and made forever last.

Come, let’s do old things once again,

Let’s dance like we did before.

Or simply sit, and chat like old friends,

And let the memories overflow our core.

The dust on our relationships, let’s clean,

Let’s mend the cracks, and make them whole.

For there’s still love that remains unseen,

And the bonds that once held, never grow old.

Come, let’s open our hearts to each other,

And forget the fights that once drove us apart.

For in each other, we find a lover,

A friend, a confidant, a fresh start.

Come, let’s sing those old songs,

And bring back the melody of the past.

Music has a way of righting wrongs,

And make our hearts beat fast.

Let’s bring our hearts closer together,

And cherish the love that we have found together.

Life’s journey, you and me

Wherever you are, my heart is there,

A bond that’s strong, beyond compare.

For though we may be far apart,

You’re always with me, in my heart.

The miles may stretch, and time may fly,

But still our love will never die.

For in each moment, we’re together,

In spirit, and in every endeavor.

Wherever you are, I feel your light,

Guiding me through each new height.

And though the road may twist and turn,

Our love, it will forever burn.

The world may change, and life may sway,

But still our bond will never fade.

For in each other, we find our way,

And stand together, come what may.

Wherever you are, I know you’re near,

A presence that I hold so dear.

And though we may be worlds apart,

You’re always with me, in my heart.

So let us cherish this love so true,

And hold on tight, to all that’s new.

For wherever you are, my love will be,

And we’ll face life’s journey, you and me.

My imperfection is my perfection

Imperfection, a label we’ve placed,

On the things we see, the life we’ve traced.

But what if imperfection was not a flaw,

But a chance to grow, an opportunity to draw?

For nothing is perfect, in this life we lead,

From the smallest seed to the tallest weed.

Our families, our friends, ourselves included,

All have flaws, with imperfections concluded.

But imperfection is not a curse,

     Nor is it something, to make us feel worse.

It’s a chance to learn, a chance to try,

To improve ourselves, to reach the sky.

For a glass that’s full, cannot hold more,

But an imperfect glass has room to explore.

To fill with more, to reach greater heights,

To make something perfect, from a plight.

So let’s embrace, imperfection with glee,

For it’s a chance to grow, a chance to be.

     Imperfection is not a bane, but a boon,

A chance to improve, to reach the moon.

So let’s not see it, as a deficiency,

But an inspiration, to try more, and see.

A night at cannon beach

Sitting on Cannon Beach at night,

Fire burning between us bright.

        The sea, in high tide, was black as coal,

        Eagerly rushing to kiss the shore’s soul.

The sky was merging with the sea,

A sight so beautiful, it felt like a dream.

        The wind was so strong, I felt its might,

        As if it could lift me up in flight.

The night was cold, but with you by my side,

I forgot all my fears, and my heart opened wide.

       The darkness around us, it did scare,

       But your presence made it easy to bear.

We watched the waves crash on the shore,

And heard their roar, and nothing more.

      The fire between us kept us warm,

      As we watched the night, serene and calm.

Oh, how I wished that moment would stay,

With you by my side, on that beach that day.

      The beauty of nature, and the love we shared,

      A memory to cherish, forever spared.

My Three Wishes

Three wishes I have, to fulfill in my life,

To bring me joy, and banish strife.

For what good is living, without a dream?

A hope to chase, a goal to scheme.

My first wish is for love to find me,

A soulmate kind and true.

Someone to share life’s ups and downs,

And help me make it through.

My second wish is for adventure,

To see the world and explore.

To witness wonders big and small,

And find beauty evermore.

My third wish is for wisdom,

To understand life’s mysteries.

To gain knowledge and insight,

And learn from histories.

These three wishes, if they come true,

Will make my life complete.

With love, adventure, and wisdom,

My joy will be replete.

My love my oxytocin

You are my oxygen, my love divine,

A breath of fresh air, in this heart of mine.

Your presence fills me with joy and bliss,

A feeling of completeness, I cannot miss.

With every beat of my heart, I feel your love,

An embrace that fits like a hand in a glove.

Your touch releases oxytocin within,

A hormone that fills my soul to the brim.

In your arms, I feel secure and safe,

An unbreakable bond, no matter the race.

Our connection grows stronger with every passing day,

An unyielding love that forever shall stay.

You are my oxygen, my life-giving force,

A love so pure, it’s impossible to divorce.

My heart beats for you, and yours for me,

An eternal bond, for all, to see.

So let us hold each other, and never let go,

Our love like oxygen will continue to flow.

With oxytocin in our veins, and love in our hearts,

Together we will conquer, till death do us part.

Empty nest

Children who leave home and go far,

To chase dreams in lands afar,

Leaving behind the familiar,

To tread paths unknown, singular.

Their eyes bright with ambition,

Their hearts filled with determination,

They seek new experiences and knowledge,

With hopes to build a brighter future image.

Their parents’ hearts ache with pride and fear,

As they watch their offspring disappear,

Into the world, so vast and wide,

Their dreams and hopes right by their side.

But distance can never diminish,

The love and bond that they cherish,

As they keep in touch through technology,

Their hearts forever bound by love’s chemistry.

For children who leave home and go,

The journey is tough, but they grow,

May their paths be filled with light,

And their futures shine ever so bright.

मेरे ख्यालात/My opinion

इस जिंदगी के बारे में सोचना,

जरूरी तो नहीं!

       क्या पुण्य है क्या पाप,

      किसी ने बताया तो नहीं!!

गर ये कहोगे की जीना जरूरी है,

जीना होगा!!

     मैं ये कहूंगी कि लिखना जरूरी है,

     लिखना होगा!

उतना ही जरूरी,

जितना सांस लेना!!

        उतना ही जरूरी,

        जितना खाना खाना!

              ये मेरी कलम नहीं,

              मेरे जज़्बात हैं!!

ये मेरे शब्द नहीं

मेरे ख्यालत हैं!!

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

Thinking about this life,

Not necessary!

        What is a virtue and what is sin,

        No one told!!

If you say that it is necessary to live,

Gotta live!

      I would say that it is important to write,

      Would write!!

As important,

As much as breathing!

         As important,

         As much as eating food!!

               This is not my pen,

               These are my feelings!

it’s not my words,

It’s my opinion!!

Is Lord Hanuman Alive#9

                  Is Hanuman Still Around?

The secret mantra of Lord Hanuman

However, there is a secret mantra that if chanted is said to make Hanuman appear before a devotee.

The Mantra is: Kaaltantu Kaarecharanti Enar Marishnu, Nirmukter Kaaletwam Amarishnu.

 Ardent devotees seeking to have the darshan of Hanuman chant this mantra fervently millions of times and finally are blessed with the rare vision of Lord Hanuman.

Jai Bajrang Bali Ji🙏🙏

Know about Lord Krishna#8

Stories of Lord Krishna

Sheshnaag protected Krishna

Suddenly Vasudeva saw a giant multi-headed snake moving towards them. Vasudeva was frightened but he did not stop.

 The snake protected both of them with his hood. This snake was,” SHESHNAAG.”

It is believed that Sheshnaag was present before the universe existed and still be there when nothing exists. Adi- Shesha also took a human form as Krishna’s elder brother Balram.

Vasudeva crossed the river and reached Gokul. He entered the house of Nand raj and Yashoda.

 Both of them were in a deep sleep and a little newborn infant was lying beside Yashoda. The infant was awake as if she was waiting for Vasudev to come.

To be continued…

Know about Lord Krishna#7

Stories of Lord Krishna

Taking Krishna to a safe place

After this, the bright light went out. The prison was dark once again and there was darkness everywhere. Vasudev picked up the little boy and cuddled him. 

He started thinking the ways of getting out from there without being noticed by anyone. He put the boy in a basket, and as soon as he did this the locks of the prison opened by themselves.

Vasudeva stepped out fearing someone could see him but he was surprised by all the guards sleeping like they were under a magic spell.

Vasudeva came out of the prison, carrying the basket on his head. No one noticed him. When he came to the bank of the river Yamuna, the river was overflooded.

 He started crossing the river on foot. He was worried that both of them could be swept away by the strong wind and currents of the water. He has covered the boy with just a piece of cloth.

To be continued…